Basic jest is that my mother has depression and anxiety, and apparently I'm the only one who helps and she depends on. My bf helps and supports me emotionally, but he is pretty much reaching his limit. I am struggling with my work, out of college not long ago and spends 80% of my free time talking to her on the phone and visiting her. I know I can't handle this much longer because it's been almost 4 month and I been trying everything I can to help, taking her to psychiatrist and psychologist, and even the hospital a few times. Her main problem is unable to let go of the past, because she broke up with my dad years ago, and she is currently married to someone, but that person doesn't come in contact with her anymore and does not support her. Apparently she's too messed up to deal with many of her problems. She longs for my dad because she knows that my dad is truely someone who had patience with her and who can support her, but my dad has a girlfriend now so he doesn't want to get involved with her. It frightens me because she thinks the only way to live happily is if my dad reunites with her, or seeing me everyday so she can spend another day living. Before you suggest, ofcourse I'm considering hospitalizing her again, but that again will be a temporary solution. I don't know how she will come in realization that she needs to face reality no matter what, because everytime anyone talks about actual problems she either freaks out or don't want to hear about it. She's too used to relying on people in the past that she is really incapable of surviving on her own. She is highly superstitious and have phobias of practically anything even common social interactions. I'm wonder if there's any professional help I can get besides the methods I already tried. Thank you!
Response to MIMB: Yea I realize that I shouldn't be a cushion to further letting her to be this way, but since almost all her family members are in another country, they're all putting pressure on me to make sure she makes it through. I thought about sending her back there (and we planned this for a while) so she has many family, but there face the problem of who is willing to take care of a sick person, alot of the relatives are complaining about their own health and situations, not sure how long can be taken cared of there. Since I really worry about her having suicidal tendencies if no one's going to give her too much attention, I guess hospitalization is the only way right now?...
Response to MIMB: Yea I realize that I shouldn't be a cushion to further letting her to be this way, but since almost all her family members are in another country, they're all putting pressure on me to make sure she makes it through. I thought about sending her back there (and we planned this for a while) so she has many family, but there face the problem of who is willing to take care of a sick person, alot of the relatives are complaining about their own health and situations, not sure how long can be taken cared of there. Since I really worry about her having suicidal tendencies if no one's going to give her too much attention, I guess hospitalization is the only way right now?...