how can i stop her from whining?

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My mom's a teacher, and her school just got moved, so it requires her and my dad to go there a lot, which means I'm stuck with my really mean, immature little sister. If you want a full description of her antics, go read my past questions. She likes to provoke me by saying things like, "You're really fat!" or, "No wonder you and Alex (my ex boyfriend) broke up!" Things like that. It often makes me cry or feel bad about myself, and some of her remarks make me so mad that I throw little things (calculators, floppy disks) at the wall so she can understand that I'm not joking around, and she'll call me some rude name and when my parents get home, she'll cry and say I hit her!
What can I do? My parents really do favor her, and they don't listen to me when I try to talk to them about her behavior.
She's 12 by the way, and I'm 15.
Telling her to grow up isn't going to help, because she'll just tell my parents that I insulted her.
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It really seems that your sister keeps doing what she's doing bec. you're giving her the attention. For whatever reason, she enjoys to see you react the way you do. When she starts teasing you, ignore. Don't let her see you get upset. When she's nice to you, then thank her for being nice to you. Also there's a saying, "kill them with kindness." Be nice to her more. But no matter what, you have to be consistent with your reaction with her. Remember: Ignore her when she's mean to you; be nice to her when she's nice to you and be extra nice to her.
 
you should know better but alas it's a tough age to deal w/ especially w/ a younger sibling as such. if anything, the simplest way to handle things is to accept these things, that you can never change your sister and only you can change yourself, improve your confidence, do well in school and whatever activity you enjoy. in one movie, god was speaking w/ a man and god said," would god give the a person patience or would god give the man the circumstances so that he could develop patience."
otherwise, don't take your sister personally as she seems to have problems of her own... just live your own life...
 
Remember, when someone torments you, it's the reaction they are looking for. When you throw something, your sister won! The hardest thing in the world is to stay calm when someone is annoying but it's also the most effective. You need to rise because she will not change if you don't.

I always believe that every experience in life is there to teach us something or shape us--maybe make us better if we can grow from it. My suggestion is to answer her sweetly, "I love you, too!" (add her name) If you can do that over and over and over and over and over again, it will make her crazy. It may actually touch some part of her on the inside that is searching for love and attention from you.

Hang in there through this hard stuff. It will pass.

<3
 
Stay away from her as much as possible, out of her drama.
Don't break, she is looking for reactions and what you need to do is be the superior older sister.
Because they favor her more, acting out on your part about unfairness won't really help. You need to act more adult, and soon they will see, after time and time again, how immature she is, hopefully.
Explain to your parents that she is really very childish and it's embarrasing and un-necesarry.
Good Luck :)
 
secretly film one night you have to watch ehr....but dont throw anything. then show it to your parents.
 
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