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Growing up I wasn't the nicest person ever, however, I did my best not to hurt people's feelings unless they really deserved it. Nevertheless, at times I was harsh when it was uncalled for.
In high school there was this one girl who most people were not very nice to, because she was extremely annoying. She didn't seem to realize that she was annoying so she would talk non-stop and would jump around the classroom and interrupt people when they were talking. Most of the times I ignored her, but one day she was being exceptionally annoying, so I yelled at her and said "would you shut up already, everyone hates you because you are so annoying." At the moment I started speaking a hush fell over the room and all eyes went over to her. She got red in the face but didn't say anything to me.
After that day I did my best to be nice to her, because I felt terrible about what I had said, but never actually apologized to her.
That was a couple of years ago, and we just recently met up again at a party. We talked and exchanged numbers. We talked a few times since then and things are never awkward while we talk. She seems as though she has forgotten or is over it. Still, I have this guilt that is eating away at me. I want to apologize to her so bad, but I don't want to bring it up if she has forgotten or wishes not to remember. Is there a way for me to apologize without mentioning it, or do you believe I should mention it and then apologize.
Also, if I do decide to talk to her about it, how should I do it? Should I take her out to lunch, buy her a gift and tell her that it is a token of my appreciation for being a good friend for so many years, just tell her over the phone? Or do you think I should not mention it at all and just act like nothing happened?
Abdul, that actually had me cracking up. Good one, lol.
Thanks Salma, great answer.
In high school there was this one girl who most people were not very nice to, because she was extremely annoying. She didn't seem to realize that she was annoying so she would talk non-stop and would jump around the classroom and interrupt people when they were talking. Most of the times I ignored her, but one day she was being exceptionally annoying, so I yelled at her and said "would you shut up already, everyone hates you because you are so annoying." At the moment I started speaking a hush fell over the room and all eyes went over to her. She got red in the face but didn't say anything to me.
After that day I did my best to be nice to her, because I felt terrible about what I had said, but never actually apologized to her.
That was a couple of years ago, and we just recently met up again at a party. We talked and exchanged numbers. We talked a few times since then and things are never awkward while we talk. She seems as though she has forgotten or is over it. Still, I have this guilt that is eating away at me. I want to apologize to her so bad, but I don't want to bring it up if she has forgotten or wishes not to remember. Is there a way for me to apologize without mentioning it, or do you believe I should mention it and then apologize.
Also, if I do decide to talk to her about it, how should I do it? Should I take her out to lunch, buy her a gift and tell her that it is a token of my appreciation for being a good friend for so many years, just tell her over the phone? Or do you think I should not mention it at all and just act like nothing happened?
Abdul, that actually had me cracking up. Good one, lol.
Thanks Salma, great answer.