How can I motivate my little sister to do something productive with her life?

[!*RaWr*!]

My 16 year old little sister has such a negative outlook on life. She has nothing going for her but despite being able to change that, she wont. She is no longer in education so therefore will not be taking her GCSE's and has said that she has no intentions of looking for a job or continuing her education. She does as she pleases day in and day out. The majority of her friends are older then her and a lot of them are no hopers like her so she has plenty of people to hang around with during the day. I honestly don't know how sitting round some blokes house doing next to nothing all day is more appealing orentertaining then going to school.I have to admit, she behaves herself fairly well while she is out. She didn't use to though. Despite hanging about with some totally unsuitbale people/bad influences she does not cause much trouble. She does not smoke and only drinks on the weekends. She knows her limits and I am proud to say can determine when enough is enough. It has been a long time since I have been at school, but the memories I have of my school days are good ones. Fair enough some days I didn't feel like going but over-all I enjoyed it. It gave me something to do for 6 hours a day. It was fun.I just worry about her future. She wants to learn how to drive, get a car and move out. All things that cost money. She expects me and our parents to provide for her. I know that a coule of years down the line she is going to have many regrets and I don't want that for her. So my question is how can I get her to do something productive and worthwhile with her life ?

 

[philip w]

Instead of acting like a brother, act like her friend. Motivate her in ways that will inspire her to want to learn. Does she have any hobbies? And also, tell her how you feel. That could also help. If she does not change, she will regret it in the future but we all learn from our mistakes.

 

[!!CRAZY!!]

Tough Love: If you are giving her money for anything, and I mean anything, stop. Do not take her out to eat, ballgames, anything. Do not leave cash laying around for her to pick up. No rides to parties on the weekends. You say she is not smoking but she is drinking. What about taking drugs? Drugs can cause a lack of ambition in people.You might offer to take her somewhere if she washes your car or does some errands. Your parents need to be involved in this. Making things easy for her is not getting the message across.She can go to school online now and get her HS diploma. Make sure she knows what her alternatives are.Try talking to her and finding out why she doesn't want to be in school.You can encourage her, but she is going to make her own choices. Make sure you do not punish yourself emotionally for her decisions.

 

[!ChEWy!]

Get her involved in after-school activties. Like a sport, art classes or try everything soon or later you willl find something she will really enjoy!

 

[Philip V]

You said the key words. "She wants all that cost money". Well tell her that she can do what ever she wants, but on her dime. Your parents should not give her a dime to spend unless she does something to earn it. Cleaning her room is not part of the deal, she made the mess she can clean it up. She needs to find out that life costs money and unless you are willing to get dirty, you will not have a thing to show for it. She will of course throw a fit, or make demands, but everyone has to stick by their guns and not give her anything. A roof over her head and food. That is all. Not going to be easy, but watching her throw her life away is not either.

 

[!!!!]

please get someone who is very much respected by your sister and let them advice her. thank you.it cold be you pastor.