How Can I Get Over Him Because I Know It Will Never Happen?

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Asked a couple of days ago, but didn't get an answer I needed. There is a guy who I know and I really, really like him. The thing is, firstly I've got a Boyfriend (who recently has been pressuring me for sex so our relationship is a bit rocky at the moment) and secondly he's about 4/5 years older than me. No matter what I've tried to do though, I just can't get over him, and when I think I just have I see him again and I all my feelings rush back! Have you got any advice for me, because I really need it. Normally I would turn tp my friends with this sort of advice, but I'm afraid that word would get back to my boyfriend about this. Any advice would be appreciated greatly,G2BPS: These are TWO separate guys not the same one. I like two guys - one of thems my bf the other is someone I like - alot. PPS: Any rude comments, or any questions that don't answer the question, will be reported!
 
Dump your current boyfriend. He deserves better.THEN and only then talk to your super secret crush, and see if things can work out. If not, joke's on you! If it works out, then I hope that you don't develop a new super secret crush.Also, what comes around goes around... ya herd?
 
This situation sounds amazingly similar to the one I'm in right now. I would be the good guy that the girl likes, while she is going out with a jerk that pressures her to do stuff and doesn't respect her. Personally, I don't understand why you or the girl I like would stay in that kind of relationship and go with the man that will treat you right. Yet logically, you would have to think about how things would be without your current boyfriend and then with your new crush. I say which ever is better go for. Hopefully it's the new guy (for yours his, and my sake) =/
 
I promise in time you will get over him enough to move on...learn from the relationship, to become a better girlfriend...whichever boy is pressuring you for sex....just wants sex! Men don't pressure women for sex....boys do! Dump him before you get hurt even more....You can make your life complicated and lose control by being weak, or be strong, in control, and stay on a positive path. Good Luck!
 
Sounds like you're just confused. Let me start from what I think you should do.You should start by talking with your boyfriend. 4-5 years older? Sounds too old for him to be able to ask you for this. How old are you?You can't legally have sex until you're 16 in most areas, and you can't have sex with anyone over 18 until you also are over 18. Talk to your boyfriend one on one, in a private setting, though not one where he can force you to do anything. Talk to him seriously about where you stand on the issue and if he still won't back off, the relationship needs to end right there. It isn't fair to your boyfriend that you have these other feelings. I know from experience (yea this has happened to me) that you'll probably lose sleep thinking about both of these boys. You aren't being fair to your boyfriend because you can't give your heart to him fully and you aren't being fair to yourself because you're depriving yourself of this bit of happiness. It's important that if you and your boyfriend are to break up, you don't turn around right away to this other guy. Take some down time and be single for a little while. Sort your feelings out and don't go after the boy until your feelings for your ex are completely gone. This gives you time to figure out what you really want and for your ex to see that you aren't coming back. You also have to realise that the other boy may not have feelings for you. But it's not right to go searching for an answer to taht question while you and your boyfriend are still dating. Just remember that you have to do whats best for you regardless. And theres always the option of breaking up and staying single, letting opportunites come to you. You don't have to be dating someone, it's important to remember that.I hope I helped!Maybe this is what you were looking for??Good luck :)
 
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