How can I discuss STD with boyfriend without offending him?

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Snowflakes

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i'm in a new relationship, haven't had sex yet. The one time we almost did he said we couldn't because he is having a herpes outbreak. Needless to say that has really concerned me considering I don't have any STDs and have always been careful with all my partners. Now that his outbreak is under control he wants to plan a special romantic night but I am still not sure if I want to be in an intimate relationship with him. I have lots of questions about the whole thing but have no idea how to bring it up because he has never bothered to elaborate or explain anything to me!! What can I say/do??????????????????????
 
YOU NEED 2 GO ONLINE LOOK ALL THIS ABOUT HERPES UP BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING AND HE SHOULD TALK 2 YOU ABOUT IT
 
The easiest way to talk about sex in a new relationship is to say "honey, I know we want to have sex and we want to be careful and safe. You mentioned that you have herpes. Please tell me all what you know about it." If you don't feel comfy talking about sex and HIS STDs with him then don't have sex.

He shouldn't feel offended by you asking him to talk about it. On the contrary, he has an obligation to tel you and be sure that you're safe IF he cares about you in more than one way.

Herpes is an STD and has no cure. He may be taking some meds like Valtrex to control the symptoms, but it's never going away. Even without an outbreak you could get it. Depending where he has the outbreak, condoms don't protect 100% against STDs. If his testicles have the outbreak, they aren't in the condom so you could get it in any part of your vulva or anus areas.

If you don't want to be intimate with this guy is your choice and there is nothing wrong with saying "no, I don't feel comfortable having sex with someone who has an STD". If you've been careful with your body you have the right to say "no".
 
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