I'm currently working as a barista in a big corporate building. I don't mind working there, but I have a problem with one of the security guards. On my first day of work, he comes by looks me up and down and says "mmmm mm mm m m look what we have here another new beautiful THING (WTF?!) mmm this makes my day." (This especially creeps me out because although I'm 21, I'm always mistaken for being 14-16 years old and this man looks older than my father) The next day, he comes by while staring at me and my coworker and says "good mornin' don't mind me, mm I love me some beautiful women."
Every day for several months now, he comes by at 10:30am and creeps up behind us when we are sweeping and says good morning while staring at our a**es. He also comes by three to four times in the afternoon. My coworker and the girl who works at the convenience store next door tell me that until they smile and say good morning, he will either stay by the doors and stare at them or pace back and forth in front of the doors while staring at them until they respond (note: this is a huge building with plenty of other places to watch over as well and none of the other guards on other shifts come by this part of the building this often). One day I hid behind the espresso machine and watched him stand and stare at the girl next door for literally fifteen minutes until I heard her say good morning. He has also told them repeatedly "do you know why I'm staring at you... it's because you're beautiful." I don't respond when he comes by and have done my best to glare when I see him come by, so he doesn't stick around as much, but every day he still comes UGH.
I couldn't ignore it any more so I told my boss and she tells me that she's creeped out too! She's around 56, but he does the same thing to her and has even told her on different occasions: "I love asian women" "asian women are beautiful." (I'm asian and so are the other workers). This behavior has apparently been going on for quite some time and her past employees have informed her of their discomfort as well. I told her that I was going to tell him that his conduct was entirely inappropriate for a security guard and could be considered harassment, but she told me that my words were too harsh ugh! Then she orders me not to say anything to him or to the office and to let her husband handle matters, but of course the creeper never comes by when he's there. I then asked her husband if he could speak to his supervisor but he says "so what, it's just a compliment, sometimes in life you have to ignore things, if I go and complain then he'll complain about us being racist, it'll give the coffee shop a bad image in the building so don't you dare go and complain yourself"
Sorry for the long message, it was therapeutic to type out my frustration. Please give me some advice about dealing with this creeper. I might be too sensitive, but I hate dealing with creepy men/cat calling/harassment when I'm walking places and have experienced other much more serious and traumatic forms of harassment in the past, so it really upsets me to experience this, however harmless, at work. It was really tough trying to get a part-time job that fit my schedule as a student without work study and I need this money so I can't quit now :*( le sigh
Every day for several months now, he comes by at 10:30am and creeps up behind us when we are sweeping and says good morning while staring at our a**es. He also comes by three to four times in the afternoon. My coworker and the girl who works at the convenience store next door tell me that until they smile and say good morning, he will either stay by the doors and stare at them or pace back and forth in front of the doors while staring at them until they respond (note: this is a huge building with plenty of other places to watch over as well and none of the other guards on other shifts come by this part of the building this often). One day I hid behind the espresso machine and watched him stand and stare at the girl next door for literally fifteen minutes until I heard her say good morning. He has also told them repeatedly "do you know why I'm staring at you... it's because you're beautiful." I don't respond when he comes by and have done my best to glare when I see him come by, so he doesn't stick around as much, but every day he still comes UGH.
I couldn't ignore it any more so I told my boss and she tells me that she's creeped out too! She's around 56, but he does the same thing to her and has even told her on different occasions: "I love asian women" "asian women are beautiful." (I'm asian and so are the other workers). This behavior has apparently been going on for quite some time and her past employees have informed her of their discomfort as well. I told her that I was going to tell him that his conduct was entirely inappropriate for a security guard and could be considered harassment, but she told me that my words were too harsh ugh! Then she orders me not to say anything to him or to the office and to let her husband handle matters, but of course the creeper never comes by when he's there. I then asked her husband if he could speak to his supervisor but he says "so what, it's just a compliment, sometimes in life you have to ignore things, if I go and complain then he'll complain about us being racist, it'll give the coffee shop a bad image in the building so don't you dare go and complain yourself"
Sorry for the long message, it was therapeutic to type out my frustration. Please give me some advice about dealing with this creeper. I might be too sensitive, but I hate dealing with creepy men/cat calling/harassment when I'm walking places and have experienced other much more serious and traumatic forms of harassment in the past, so it really upsets me to experience this, however harmless, at work. It was really tough trying to get a part-time job that fit my schedule as a student without work study and I need this money so I can't quit now :*( le sigh