How can I calm this overly aggressive boy?

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Aria

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I'm a nanny for 5 year old fraternal twin boys, and I have a concern about one's aggressiveness. The smaller one is very shy, timid, and intellectual. He likes to ask questions about everything, and he has a little more trouble making friends.

The bigger one is the polar opposite. He's NOT shy, he'll tell you exactly what he's thinking, and he can be very aggressive on the playground. If he perceives something to be unfair (ex- 'I was THINKING about going on the slide, but that girl went on the slide first), he'll get in the kid's face and yell at them. If a baby stops and stares at him, he'll put his hands on his hips and scowl, and most of the time, the babies get scared and run away! He's the first to hit between the two brothers, and I'm constantly scared he'll hit a kid on the playground and create a big problem.

The thing is, he's a sweet boy. He doesn't *mean* to hurt anyone, he's just really freaking impulsive and aggressive. When I tell him to stop, he'll obey, but then he just loses control again and it starts over. I don't want him to change his personality, because it's part of who he his, I just want him to understand that sometimes "you get more flies with honey." What can I do?
 
I used to know a kid like that honestly I can say it came from the parents... Usually when it comes to twins if one knows he or she is older they make the situation fit them like taking over give demands and most of time think the world rotates by their demands. But what I did with the aggresive kid, I did finds his most wanted need and his was to tell him how great he will be by helping other, when he got aggressive with another human being I went and showed him how he can make the other person obey an order in kind way so that both is smiling each time he get aggresive and do something try fun ways to show him how special each person are and how special he can be by rather helping than attacking. Keep in mind kids love the phrase LOVE MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND and if something bad happens tell them its because there was not enough love between people or the situation but when you do this remeber to show all kids otherwise he will feel you are targeting him and get worst
 
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