How can a woman find a man ''hot'' and not desire to be somewhat submissive to him?

[Ms. Ann Thrope ^^]

I would have thought the two go along in some way because women don't look at men the same way men look at women. It is a completely different Pavlovian response. As a woman, if I like a man, I want to be feminine and him to be masculine and I don't understand anything like 'oh he is hot. I want to have neutral ''equal'' sex with him and a partnership''. There is always an element I think in the feminine nature where we want to be a little beneath or under him. I am not sure which feminist said it but '' when a woman orgasms we eroticize our own oppression'' was the phrase. I don;t agree and see it as rather illogical and what is the alternative but yes, I always thought, heterosexual attraction always involves the dynamic of dominance and submission but heterosexual men and women in western society if they are vanilla don't really like to acknowledge that, right?
no, I like to be in control and when I really fancy a man I want to rip his clothes off and all of that but through it all I still know he is the dominant one here, the one in charge, not me. I still feel submissive even if I am taking the initiative and taking the active role..I don't consider that dominance. The man is dominant just because he is the man..