Your Liege
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*Disclaimer: I'm seriously not a pedo or advocate for pedo's, even though you guy's won't believe me since anyone who doesn't consider the worst crime in the world is automatically branded a pedo.
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As a victim of child sexual abuse (csa) I often wonder how I would fare if I let society's outlook on what happened to me effect my psych. Because to me, it was never such a big deal. What did my uncle do? I won't go into detail but basically oral stuff so no pain involved. I find it very insulting when I hear people speak about abused kids. I've heard people say stuff like "You mine as well have killed that child" or " That's the worst thing you could do." "That's disgusting, if anyone did that to my child I'd kill him." That's all fine and dandy to try to deter pedophiles from molesting (even though that doesn't work) but did you ever stop and think how you're making the kid feel? A kid who may not even think what happened to him was all that bad?
Luckily, I wasn't affected by societies outlook. Sure my dad made countless threats against my uncle (his brother), sure people made it seem like I went through hell and I was some kind of "survivor" but honestly it was no big deal.
I looked at it rationally, what so "evil" did my uncle do to me? He took Advantage of me, yeah well so did a lot of people. He took advantage of me sexually, yeah well I've done that to about 3 of my "girlfriends" in HS.
He made me feel powerless? Not really, infact, It seemed pretty mutual. So overall what he did was wrong, but should I feel like he killed my childhood? or stole my innocence? Was it the worst thing to ever happen to me? Not.
Let's compare it to something socially acceptable, like spanking. I remember my worst one came around the same time I was being molested. While playing ball in the house I broke our big screen. My dad came home made me get his belt and went in on me.
Did it hurt? HELL YES. Did he take advantedge of me? Yes, if he tried that today at 6'4 195 I'd crack his ass. Did he make me feel powerless? Oh yes? Did he take advantedge of me sexually? No, well, depending on who you ask.
Infact, if I could take away one, I'd take away the spankings in a heart beat.
Yet spankings are socially acceptable so children don't suffer from these horrible adverse effects that even kids who were fondled once in their childhood suffer from. Reason why? Society. Society's impact in ancient greece was strong enough to make bi-sexuality the norm. In Turkey kids who have their dickyflaps snipped off in front of large crowds at age 6 suffer no apperant adverse effects. It all, ultimately comes down to what society thinks. I'm sure if you asked any Turkey kid who just witnessed a kid get fondled and a kid get circumsized which one he'd perfer? 99.9 would chose the fondle.
(Skip to the last paragraph for main point.)
As a victim of child sexual abuse (csa) I often wonder how I would fare if I let society's outlook on what happened to me effect my psych. Because to me, it was never such a big deal. What did my uncle do? I won't go into detail but basically oral stuff so no pain involved. I find it very insulting when I hear people speak about abused kids. I've heard people say stuff like "You mine as well have killed that child" or " That's the worst thing you could do." "That's disgusting, if anyone did that to my child I'd kill him." That's all fine and dandy to try to deter pedophiles from molesting (even though that doesn't work) but did you ever stop and think how you're making the kid feel? A kid who may not even think what happened to him was all that bad?
Luckily, I wasn't affected by societies outlook. Sure my dad made countless threats against my uncle (his brother), sure people made it seem like I went through hell and I was some kind of "survivor" but honestly it was no big deal.
I looked at it rationally, what so "evil" did my uncle do to me? He took Advantage of me, yeah well so did a lot of people. He took advantage of me sexually, yeah well I've done that to about 3 of my "girlfriends" in HS.
He made me feel powerless? Not really, infact, It seemed pretty mutual. So overall what he did was wrong, but should I feel like he killed my childhood? or stole my innocence? Was it the worst thing to ever happen to me? Not.
Let's compare it to something socially acceptable, like spanking. I remember my worst one came around the same time I was being molested. While playing ball in the house I broke our big screen. My dad came home made me get his belt and went in on me.
Did it hurt? HELL YES. Did he take advantedge of me? Yes, if he tried that today at 6'4 195 I'd crack his ass. Did he make me feel powerless? Oh yes? Did he take advantedge of me sexually? No, well, depending on who you ask.
Infact, if I could take away one, I'd take away the spankings in a heart beat.
Yet spankings are socially acceptable so children don't suffer from these horrible adverse effects that even kids who were fondled once in their childhood suffer from. Reason why? Society. Society's impact in ancient greece was strong enough to make bi-sexuality the norm. In Turkey kids who have their dickyflaps snipped off in front of large crowds at age 6 suffer no apperant adverse effects. It all, ultimately comes down to what society thinks. I'm sure if you asked any Turkey kid who just witnessed a kid get fondled and a kid get circumsized which one he'd perfer? 99.9 would chose the fondle.