Interesting little situation I have on my hands - This guy is meant to be in my life so any help would be greatly appreciated.
After a big fight that was neither/both our faults (over something so stupid and alcohol was involved so yelling was worse) neither of us talked to each other for six whole stubborn days and of course I was the one to break the ice. He said he didn't see a point in talking anymore, etc but I knew it was him waiting for me to beg for him back. Which worked very well because I was being very nice and personable and 'apologizing' even though I really didn't do anything. So we "technically" made "peace" but it was awkward and weird and distant... I told him I would leave him alone. Few days after we started easing into our normal stuff which he initiated but deeper in the convo he says "I dunno why but i have no desire to see you or hang with you, the days we weren't talking were some of my best days and IDK if it's cause it was just a good week but i hung with the bros and got drunk and I wasn't thinking of all the BS going on"
This killed me because those six days were brutal for me. However, he said this sober and on halloween we talked on the phone drunk and he said he really missed me those days so I think he is hurt by all this too but is trying to act like he doesn't care. I began NO CONTACT in order for me to try to heal but every few days he contacts me and will make conversation and what not and I think he wants it to go back to normal, I am short but nice b/c I can't get hurt again and I have not seen him since the night at the party where the fight went out so I don't see his intentions with texting me even tho I think he wants it back to normal I just don't know how to make it that way now. Should i be nicer and longer when we talk and why the hell would someone tell someone he has no desire to see me? any advice would help me
After a big fight that was neither/both our faults (over something so stupid and alcohol was involved so yelling was worse) neither of us talked to each other for six whole stubborn days and of course I was the one to break the ice. He said he didn't see a point in talking anymore, etc but I knew it was him waiting for me to beg for him back. Which worked very well because I was being very nice and personable and 'apologizing' even though I really didn't do anything. So we "technically" made "peace" but it was awkward and weird and distant... I told him I would leave him alone. Few days after we started easing into our normal stuff which he initiated but deeper in the convo he says "I dunno why but i have no desire to see you or hang with you, the days we weren't talking were some of my best days and IDK if it's cause it was just a good week but i hung with the bros and got drunk and I wasn't thinking of all the BS going on"
This killed me because those six days were brutal for me. However, he said this sober and on halloween we talked on the phone drunk and he said he really missed me those days so I think he is hurt by all this too but is trying to act like he doesn't care. I began NO CONTACT in order for me to try to heal but every few days he contacts me and will make conversation and what not and I think he wants it to go back to normal, I am short but nice b/c I can't get hurt again and I have not seen him since the night at the party where the fight went out so I don't see his intentions with texting me even tho I think he wants it back to normal I just don't know how to make it that way now. Should i be nicer and longer when we talk and why the hell would someone tell someone he has no desire to see me? any advice would help me