Im with an amazing guy. Very very happy in our relationship. He has 3 kids. 2 live abroad and 1 he gets regularly, every weekend and for longer during the holidays.
The thing is, his son who is 5 is wild!! I have 4 kids. 2 of them have autism. And they can be a handful themselves. But this little lad is really stressful to be around.
He bites and jumps up on everyone. He climbs all over the sofa. Sits on the arms of the sofa, swings on the dining chairs. Moves his chair so its right in front of the tv. He has grabbed my 3 year old by the face and also tried to bite her. He hugs her like a bear to the point where they have both fallen and she was hurt pretty badly. He bites my leather sofa. etc etc.
Thing is, i have tried to hint to my boyfriend that his son needs disciplined etc. but i dont think my boyfriend can cope with him either. He is a big softy. And its not my place to give his son into trouble, especially if my boyfriend is there!
This wee lad takes over the whole house! All the toys, including the hundreds he brings with him.
I have tried to hint that we just go out and not to bring his son into the house! but he just comes over. I try to be kind about it, hinting that my little one needs to go to bed, so that he will take his son home. I get so stressed out about it! It also stresses out my kids! and it seems the only one happy is his little boy.
I have having a new years eve party and just found out that my boyfriend will have his son that night too. and he thinks it will be fine to bring him along to the party!!!!
Im ready to cancel the party! I dont think i can honestly cope with this little lad.
So im at a stage now where i dont know whether to end it with my boyfriend?? or to treasure the moments we have when his son is not there. His little boy will not always be this young, and hopefully he will calm down a lot. I have asked my boyfriend if he thinks his wee boy has ADHD, he just says, i dont know?? I think he is expecting his ex wife to deal with all that side of stuff.
I know today is going to be a day when i need to discuss things with him. But i also know i need to tread carefully because his son comes before me and thats fine, as my kids come before him. I just know i cant cope with his wee boy at my house for a week at a time. I find it hard for 7 hours at a time.
Thanks in advance for any advice!!
The thing is, his son who is 5 is wild!! I have 4 kids. 2 of them have autism. And they can be a handful themselves. But this little lad is really stressful to be around.
He bites and jumps up on everyone. He climbs all over the sofa. Sits on the arms of the sofa, swings on the dining chairs. Moves his chair so its right in front of the tv. He has grabbed my 3 year old by the face and also tried to bite her. He hugs her like a bear to the point where they have both fallen and she was hurt pretty badly. He bites my leather sofa. etc etc.
Thing is, i have tried to hint to my boyfriend that his son needs disciplined etc. but i dont think my boyfriend can cope with him either. He is a big softy. And its not my place to give his son into trouble, especially if my boyfriend is there!
This wee lad takes over the whole house! All the toys, including the hundreds he brings with him.
I have tried to hint that we just go out and not to bring his son into the house! but he just comes over. I try to be kind about it, hinting that my little one needs to go to bed, so that he will take his son home. I get so stressed out about it! It also stresses out my kids! and it seems the only one happy is his little boy.
I have having a new years eve party and just found out that my boyfriend will have his son that night too. and he thinks it will be fine to bring him along to the party!!!!
Im ready to cancel the party! I dont think i can honestly cope with this little lad.
So im at a stage now where i dont know whether to end it with my boyfriend?? or to treasure the moments we have when his son is not there. His little boy will not always be this young, and hopefully he will calm down a lot. I have asked my boyfriend if he thinks his wee boy has ADHD, he just says, i dont know?? I think he is expecting his ex wife to deal with all that side of stuff.
I know today is going to be a day when i need to discuss things with him. But i also know i need to tread carefully because his son comes before me and thats fine, as my kids come before him. I just know i cant cope with his wee boy at my house for a week at a time. I find it hard for 7 hours at a time.
Thanks in advance for any advice!!