His parents do not approve of the baby news. Now I'm uncomfortable. What do I do?

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My boyfriend just told his parents a few days ago about the fact that he and I are expecting a baby. He was nervous to tell them because he already had a feeling about their reaction. But I told him that he has to tell them one way or another. So he did. They weren't too pleased. Btw I told my parents the moment I found out and they were happy and excited. Anyhow, he told them and all they had was negative feedback. They don't like the idea that we are not married (we may get married but not now), they feel we are not financially secure (I currently live on my own but he lives with the parents), the pregnancy was unplanned and they don't think he's responsible enough to be a father. Excuses..if you ask me. His mom is concerned about our situation but it's his dad that has more issues with it. Now before the news came out I was pretty much always at their house. But now I just feel completely uncomfortable. It's bad enough my hormones are making me overly emotional but now I feel that I have to deal with this. When I did go to their house the other day his dad pretty much ignored me. I'm pissed because even MY OWN parents don't give me attitude. Btw, I am 27 years old and my bf is 23 years old. I am not a child and neither is their son.

I was thinking of not going to their house anymore because I don't feel like I'm wanted and that's the last thing I want to do to anyone. My bf and I are looking into finding our own place within the next couple of months but what do I do in the meantime??

I don't need anyone making me feel bad about this blessing in our lives. My bf and I are happy about the baby and it makes me upset to know that he is being selfish.

Suggestions???
 
i feel the same way about my husbands family we told them im pregnant and they were not excited at all and came up with a bunch of excuses of why i should have the baby.. also they never invite us over and they live 20 min away they have never called me to talk just to me or anything my family is the complete opposite.. What i do is when there is holidays we go over just to be nice and i act nice but i do not see them other than that, you shouldn't cut them out completely cause they are still your bf family and your babies grandparents just suck it up even it stinks! Congrats on the baby!!
 
That's a tough situation, but you have to do what's good for you and the baby. Since they aren't supportive of you and him having a baby, then don't be in their lives. Don't go by their house, and let your bf come over to your house. Yall should deffinately find a place to live together though! Good luck and stay strong
 
you are gonna have to stick through it. after all they are going to be the grandparents over your future child. you will have to deal with them for the rest of your life. you could limit how much you go over there. or you could ignore the awkwardness and make it incredibly weird for them and go over there the same amount as you used to. they will forget all the anger and stuff after the baby is born.
 
it sounds that you are doing everything right. it is uncomfortable i see. hopefully the parents will come to terms with this. it may take them a while...everyone is different. if they don't...its their lose....it sounds like you have a great support team with your parents. getting an apartment is just what you both need to do....momma and daddy need to cut the apron strings to your bf. he is a big boy. maybe his parents are shocked. is he by chance the only child? or is he the only son they have? if thar=t is the case.....you most likely will have difficulty for a while to come. that is their baby... and they don't want to see their son hurt. maybe you ought to tell them just how much your love their son...i mean REALLY EXPRESS that....once they fell the love you have for their son....they might just grow up and realize that someone else is capable on loving...supporting, and taking care of him just as much or good as they do....best of luck....hope i helped some....
and congratulations.....nothing will ever be better then having a baby... enjoy.......you are truly blessed....
 
Wow this sounds like my exact situation expect I am 28 and my boyfriend is 32. His mom flipped when he told her and every since then it just has been uncomfortable. I very rarely go to her house anymore or even talk to her. I am now 34 weeks and 2 days but when I was about 28 weeks she did throw me a shower with some of his family (which I was grateful for but thought it was rude because I told her SEVERAL times it was not necessary). I guess she is trying for her son’s sake but I STILL don’t feel comfortable around her at all. There is nothing you can really do at this point hopefully your boyfriends parents will come around and realize that there son is a grown man and they have to let go and let him live his life. Also hopefully they come around for the baby’s sake.

Good Luck!
 
Congrats by the way...I would just continue to go over to see your bf..head held high. Treat them the way you normally would. They will come around =) I know how pregnancy hormones can be..lol..but you know what you want, and you are happy..so don't let them make you feel negative about this..after all you will only be pregnant with this baby once..enjoy it. Good luck to you from a mom of five.
 
How was your relationship w/ them prior to the news? If it was a good one, then they will get over the shock and come around. In the end they will see this baby a blessing and will love it, who can't.
 
One, those aren't excuses his parents are stating, they are facts hon. You may not want to see it but fact is he is 23 years old, he still lives at home with his parents, and now he is expecting a child.

If he were financially secure he would have his OWN home and not still be depending on his mom and dad to help him out. If he was responsible he would not be out getting someone pregnant when he can't even support himself and be on his own without his parents help.

You may be 27 but he is still a child at 23.

Unless you plan on moving him in with you to get him away from his parents influence you may as well plan on being single mom in the future. There is a reason he is still at home and if this is how his parents feel, it won't be long before he wants out of the whole thing, leaving you to raise the child with no help from him.

Not to mention, if you hadn't urged him to tell them would he have told them on his own? Probably not,meaning that you pretty much are pregnant by a little boy who can't do anything without mom, dad, or you telling him what he must do and how to do it.

So best of luck to you, I hope things work out for the baby's sake, but honestly, I just don't see it falling into place. You made an irresponsible decision to sleep with him and now that child is going to pay the price for it.
 
One, those aren't excuses his parents are stating, they are facts hon. You may not want to see it but fact is he is 23 years old, he still lives at home with his parents, and now he is expecting a child.

If he were financially secure he would have his OWN home and not still be depending on his mom and dad to help him out. If he was responsible he would not be out getting someone pregnant when he can't even support himself and be on his own without his parents help.

You may be 27 but he is still a child at 23.

Unless you plan on moving him in with you to get him away from his parents influence you may as well plan on being single mom in the future. There is a reason he is still at home and if this is how his parents feel, it won't be long before he wants out of the whole thing, leaving you to raise the child with no help from him.

Not to mention, if you hadn't urged him to tell them would he have told them on his own? Probably not,meaning that you pretty much are pregnant by a little boy who can't do anything without mom, dad, or you telling him what he must do and how to do it.

So best of luck to you, I hope things work out for the baby's sake, but honestly, I just don't see it falling into place. You made an irresponsible decision to sleep with him and now that child is going to pay the price for it.
 
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