his mood swings are just too much.......can u give advice?

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hi im worried about my boyfriend of 2 years,he is a lovely person but then he can change into a horrible person out of no where, throwing things and shouting lasting maby 5-20 mins, then he calms down and is back to his normal self, he has things on his mind ,he told me last night hes been getting headaches before he gets like this and sometimes after, do you think he has a mental health issue?i dont know who to ask im just not able to put up with the way he treats me when he is like that.
 
first you have to be concerned about you - and he has to be concerned about him.

get out - that is my advice.

he could be suffering from a sleep disorder (not getting enough rest) - a hormonal issue or unresolved emotional problems (which we all have) how people chose to deal with problems is very much their choice - they can chose to be violent - they can chose to go out and run a while or walk or meditate.

you are with someone who chooses to be violent - is that what you really want?
 
First please be careful, people like him tend to get violent and this could turn abusive. This sounds to me like he is bipolar. Try I sit him down and tell him you think he needs to get help. If he refuses which people tend to do, then you need to get yourself put because things will only get worse.

Good luck and be careful.
 
you could be the next thing he decides to throw..you tell him to get the help he needs or get out..sounds like serious anger issues..
 
my fairly recent boyfriend has the same problem and he is under a lot of stress currently.He never has hurt me though, only thrown plates... If you can get him to see a doctor I would strongly recommend this. It might be a mental problem or it might even be a physical problem as headaches are associated with it. A doctor is not a short term solution though, most treatments will take time. The short term solution might to deal with what currently causes the stress (which is what I am currently try to do and I don't yet have time to do more).
If you have been together for two years and things are otherwise fine I would give him a chance under the condition that he deals with it. If he doesn't have medical insurance you can check into clinics with a sliding pay scale (you can call a suicide help line, they can give you the names and addresses in your area) or if you have insurance you can try to go yourself and get him "treated" through you.
 
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