Here's the debate in our house this morning:?

[waiting to exhale]

Should married women or men have best friends of the opposite sex outside of their marriage? Please explain your answer either way-Thanks
These are all very good arguments - my husband and I were trying to explain why we felt it was a bad idea to our 17 yr old who didn't see a problem with it.

 

[sassy_mom23]

I think if you honestly trust your SO, then it shouldn't be a problem. If your SO strays in your relationship, then it was meant to happen with someone. If an SO is going to cheat, purposefully or not, then it doesn't really matter if its with a BFF or a stranger.

I have several really good guys friends that are also good friends with my BF. I know they all really care about me, but I know the reasons why I am not with them and the reasons why I'm with my BF. I have been there for these guys when their relationships went south and them for me. We all have a very brotherly/sisterly relationship.

My BF has some friends that are girls that he works with, but I know them all and they respect the relationship we have. I trust my man and know he wouldn't cheat on me since he has been the one cheated on and he knows what it feels like.

I think it can be helpful to have a friend of the opposite sex to help you understand issues with your SO, that sometimes make more sense to a male/female.

 

[1selkie]

Yes, so long as neither spouse has a problem with it and you are absolutely, positively, honestly not attracted to your friend one bit. It's also vital that you introduce your spouse to them and do things as a group, so everybody knows exactly where they stand.

If you start keeping your friend a secret from your spouse, exclude your spouse from the friendship, or become attracted to the friend, you are doomed.

 

[Donna D]

Yes they should... If things aren't going good you need a very good friend to help you through the rough spots in your marriage, men call them mistresses women call them good friends.