HELP ..is this controlling behavior?

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were seperated and he wants to decide the unborn babys name...ALL OF THEM...he wants a key to my place to come and go as he pleases...he wants me to be at his beck and call...he wants to keep me waiting for him for an unknown amount of time....he wants me to change myself before he comes back....if i make him mad he wont talk to me for days or weeks.....he blames me literally for all the problems. every time i try to protest he shuts me down and walks away from the conversation...he always gets what he wants.he wont commit to anything to help me whether its money or something else. i just want our family to stay together.....i dont want to live liket this though.

my own husband wont live with me because i'm not good enough and that is basically what he says and how he feels. he even has me programed in his phone by my first name.

he was making jokes that my vagina will look all wierd and lose after child birth....it made me feel like he wouldnt want to have sex with me again...and i worry if will become lose. :(

i really dont want him in the delivery room...he wants to be there because it is his "first experience" and he said nothing more. i worry he will forever make fun of me to his friends if i crap on the delivery table or look bad during contractions and make funny noises in my pain....this is all just a big joke to him. (the "man" is in his early 30's).

i'm bringing his child into the world and i feel like a pregnant dog instead to him.




does all of this sound controlling to you?
 
awwww sweety. This is really sad. this guy sounds like a total immature kid about the situation. I don't think its the best idea to be with him liek this. IM NOT SAYING HE IS A BAD PERSON. Just, do you need this right now? If your pregnant with his kid, ask him to be a little more considerate about it. Its hard enough to have a child, let a lone someone making fun of you for it. And its your husband. I just don't think he can be serious to deal with a family. You need to stand up for your self and have a talk.
 
You need to dump this as@#ole and be a single mom. Remember, I told you this when he smacks you when you walk in the door because he thinks you were with someone else or you're 2 minutes late. Remember, each time he belittles you to stroke his ego. He is not a keeper! Stand your ground and don't settle for someone beneath you. Please don't waste 10 years of your life thinking you can change him. You can't.
 
What the hell?? Your own husband wont live with you?!? who does he think he is? OMG you need to tell him were to go! I would tell him that since he has decided to move out then he has no right naming all the babies and that he def does not need a key to your home. Him making jokes about your vagina after childbirth is sick and he has a very sick sense of humour. Sorry but its true and u need to leave him and not talk to him for a while so that he realises that its not ok for him to treat you this way.. He will continue to treat u this way for as long as u allow him to.. YOU are the one that has the control to end this all.. and u should because a husband that wont even live with his wife and puts her down and puts her down about her own body has issues himself. People that put others down usually have low self esteem issues themselves.. Well that not entirely true because I have low self esteem and I do not treat ppl like that. Honestly love get rid of him because you dont want that in your life and the life of your unborn baby. what he is doing to you is called emotional and verbal abuse and in my opinion sometimes worse than psychical violence as the words they say can stick inside your head for a long time making you feel worthless and hopeless and like there is no hope out there.. But there is always hope and as hard as it may seem now things will get better if you were to decide to leave him and make a life for you and your baby... To answer your question YES he is very controlling.. Hope it all works out for you :) xxx
 
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