I'm also soooo obsessive over Twilight but I haven't found anything remotely as good.
But I heard Blood and Chocolate is pretty good, and they made it a movie.
It's basically the same exact concept as Twilight, but the girl is a werewolf and the guy is a human.
So here, you substitute dream-guy for power-house female character, which can also be very good.
It's on my list of books to read.
~Cheers~