am with my bf for 5 yrs and everytime a problem happens between us, he takes this attitude saying "I dont want to talk about it now. I did 'such and such' just like that" and when i ask him why he says "just like that"!! so the problem is never solved and it keeps on reappearing later in our relationship. What should i do? i told him 10000 times thats its a big problem that he doesnt discuss it with me. he just doesnt seem to care!! should i just wait and cool down after a problem happens and then he wil come to discuss it??? am so lost 