He and I discuss getting back together, but he is worried that we will argue again?

[Outdoorsgirl]

Moving back to where my ex is, and he is with someone but wants to consider getting back with me. We had great times together, great sex, but there were always these arguments that got in the way. About stupid stuff, and we are both in our thirties, so it is ridiculous, yet our emotions get the best of us. We really are confused, and I am more impatient than he is...and he is with someone but said he has thought of me all the time and misses me. He says he is content with her, but wishes she were more like me. Why can I not just walk away from him?

 

[Lyreceus]

Outdoorsgirl, you cannot just walk away because this relationship is something that is, at least, familiar to you. You already have a warm comfort zone with this fellow, regardless of the arguments. Plus, he is enticing you with his (manipulative) statements about how he has been wanting to get back with you (even though he is with someone else).

From my experience, if you have a habit of arguing about 'stupid stuff,' then you will continue to do that if you get back together. It's like being sweetly drawn to something that you know will cause you heartache.

So, he wishes her to be 'more like you!' That is not a compliment to you! He doesn't want to hurt you, but he doesn't really want you.

I think you should sincerely wish him well and do yourself a favor by moving on to meet other guys. It takes more effort to do that, but it will open up more opportunities for you to find the relationship that really clicks for you both!

Good luck!