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My wife's family treats me rudely but we keep showing up at their house on Holidays. Family obligation.
They all know they can treat me and my wife rudely and we will just grin and bear it because that what everyone tells us to do. But is that really the best thing to do? By letting them treat us rudely and showing up each and every Holiday the rude people win.
Logically my wife would be the one to bring it up to the bad relatives (her parents and sisters) but she is meek and a door mat around them. I watch her be treated poorly by her parents and see her take it and burn up inside. They treat me rudely too.
What would be the polite way to handle it if my wife refuses to stand up for herself? If it was your spouse would you speak up and fight the battle, just take it, or come up with passive aggressive excuses to not show up at future Holidays?
Please dont tell me to ask my wife about it and for her to handle it. We have talked about it forever and she is too much of a doormat to do anything about it. But I keep freaking out (inside) at family events when we are treated rudely.
They all know they can treat me and my wife rudely and we will just grin and bear it because that what everyone tells us to do. But is that really the best thing to do? By letting them treat us rudely and showing up each and every Holiday the rude people win.
Logically my wife would be the one to bring it up to the bad relatives (her parents and sisters) but she is meek and a door mat around them. I watch her be treated poorly by her parents and see her take it and burn up inside. They treat me rudely too.
What would be the polite way to handle it if my wife refuses to stand up for herself? If it was your spouse would you speak up and fight the battle, just take it, or come up with passive aggressive excuses to not show up at future Holidays?
Please dont tell me to ask my wife about it and for her to handle it. We have talked about it forever and she is too much of a doormat to do anything about it. But I keep freaking out (inside) at family events when we are treated rudely.