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Wanttobefree74
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My husband and I have been married for 15 years, we have two children. Over the course of our marriage, my mother in law - who I consider to be a friend and who I can candidly speak with has told me that we are the only of her children that she would ever consider living with. I have always just said "Oh that's nice". She is getting older, and she lives on a fixed income. Right now she only has about $25 left at the end of the month to do anything with. This leaves her very strapped when she wants to do something with a friend, go on a trip or even buy any of her grandchildren gifts (she's very giving - but not to excess - She'll give what she can)
Over the past year my husband and I have been discussing moving her in with us, we have even built a room in the basement for our 13 year old as the bedroom he occupies now is very large, and he wants to move downstairs for "privacy" So she would have her own large bedroom and her own living room.
She's a pretty independent woman, and has always maintained she thinks its important to pay her own way. Is it wrong to ask that she pay towards the household? If she contributed $500 per month she'd still be left with quite a bit of money to travel and do everything she'd like to do. But I can't help but feel bad asking her to give money..
Any thoughts on this????? Has anyone ever done this??? What about having her pay a couple bills instead of giving the $$ to us.. Just looking for opinions..Thanks
Over the past year my husband and I have been discussing moving her in with us, we have even built a room in the basement for our 13 year old as the bedroom he occupies now is very large, and he wants to move downstairs for "privacy" So she would have her own large bedroom and her own living room.
She's a pretty independent woman, and has always maintained she thinks its important to pay her own way. Is it wrong to ask that she pay towards the household? If she contributed $500 per month she'd still be left with quite a bit of money to travel and do everything she'd like to do. But I can't help but feel bad asking her to give money..
Any thoughts on this????? Has anyone ever done this??? What about having her pay a couple bills instead of giving the $$ to us.. Just looking for opinions..Thanks