Guys, sex....and ignoring the girl afterwards?

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We dated for awhile. It wasn't "official" but were still intimate, spent time regularly, talked daily. We immediately clicked, I've never felt so comfortable with someone. He was a sweetheart. Things got complicated when his ex gf moved back the city temporarily...he started backing off. After being intimate one night, confessed he still cared for her but she wasn't interested in him. That I'm amazing, deserve so much better. He left my apt. that morning and never talked to me again.

He never ended things officially, just ignored me. I felt so used. His ex moved away (he doesn't know I know this) and he's contacting me again. I gave in and responded, explained my thoughts on how he acted. He apologized saying he ruined a great thing with me, that he was confused and backed off because he figured i hated him. Admitted he behaved immaturely, takes all of the blame.

I know I shouldn't waste my time or even ask this question. I do deserve better. But it baffles me. What could he possibly be thinking-- Is it all about sex? Does he actually care? Was it a mistake to respond to him?
 
A man that doesn't give you the time of day, doesn't deserve any of your time and energy. You are absolutely right...you deserve much better. Don't settle for just anyone. Unfortunately, I believe he only wants to be with you for sex.
 
if there is something i hate its this, GUYS GIRLS ARE NOT OBJECTS, THEY ARE HUMANS WHO HAVE EMOTIONS LIKE WE DO. i know i sound dumb but im the romantic type, not the one who uses girls like a condom and just throws them away
 
It wasn't a mistake to respond to him, but now, move on lady! :-) He may have genuinely meant it and if he did that's great, you can say it's closure for you and that he learned his lesson. But the sad truth is, he may not have meant it but knew exactly what to say to appease you. Men are great at this. I always know when my husband means it or when he's patronizing me, and it takes some learning experiences to be able to tell the difference. Thank him for his apology and assumption of the blame and bid him farewell. Then go out, buy a smokin pair of stilettos and hit the town with your girls this weekend. And also ignore his attempts to contact you from here on out.

It's not worth it because he was only interested in sex with you then was all to quick to run to his ex that he still had feelings for. Now that she's out of the picture he's trying to go back to an old comfort once again. I wouldn't waste my time with that one anymore sweetie.

I'm 27 and I've dated lots of guys just like this and now I'm married to a wonderful man. These kinds of experiences help you grow as a person and give you better clarity to weed out the losers to find an awesome guy! Never get involved with a guy who will have sex with you right away, that's my golden rule. If you give him sex immediately, he'll know that's all the stock he'll have to put into the relationship and won't take you or the relationship seriously.
 
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