guys, is it fair on him that i reject SEX?

Alex

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I'm seeing a guy for about two months now. Whenever i come over to his place we will talk, watch a movie and snuggle but he will start to take things further, i allow him to touch me but when he wants something from me like a BJ or HJ, cause he knows sex is out of the question that early on in a relationship, i refuse to purely because i need to know a guy on a deeper level to do sexual acts with him.

When he wants to lie around in his bed i will gladly hop in and he will hold me (which really excites him) touch me, we make out and such, which all gets him going and than i don't want to do anything further purely because i can't ignore my perceptions on things like this--i just can't get sexual with a guy if i am not emotionally, whole heartily involved with him. So am i being unfair on him, exciting him and then turning him down when he wants to take it further. I really like him and i would be happy to just make out but it never stays at that, it always goes further and than i have to keep rejecting him and i'm sick of it, cause i don't want to lead him on but i want to be close to him so the point i feel comfortable.

And he never complains about me not wanting to do anything but i know he would get annoyed even though he doesn't say it. Could he remain understanding till i'm ready.

any advice would be much appreciated
 
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