Guys, I have a problem...
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geez you're drunk. :tongue:
Christian Jankulov
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You can psyche yourself INTO the bad effects. Lay off the alcohol. Physical dependence on THAT, is no laughing matter. Baaad Joojoo. Being stoned all day isn't for everyone, but I've been a contributing, functioning member of society for the 11 years that I have been stoned all day. 
It sucks, but I think I know what you mean about the alcohol. I keep telling myself that I'm going to slow down drinking, and then the next weekend I buy a case of beer and get drunk. If I have beer in the house during the week, I'll usually have one or two after work or in the evening.
Personally I find that if there's a chance I might get drunk in an evening, and I really don't want to, what works for me is just to head out to some friends' place an hour away. They don't drink, and usually I'll help out on the farm or on the house they're building during the day, and then play poker or video games or watch a movie or something in the evening.
Problem is, if you don't really know anyone who doesn't drink or smoke, it can be more difficult to quit. I recently quit smoking cigarettes (besides when I'm drinking), simply by forcing myself to quit, but the alcohol seems to be more difficult.
Personally I find that if there's a chance I might get drunk in an evening, and I really don't want to, what works for me is just to head out to some friends' place an hour away. They don't drink, and usually I'll help out on the farm or on the house they're building during the day, and then play poker or video games or watch a movie or something in the evening.
Problem is, if you don't really know anyone who doesn't drink or smoke, it can be more difficult to quit. I recently quit smoking cigarettes (besides when I'm drinking), simply by forcing myself to quit, but the alcohol seems to be more difficult.
Oh Meeps. I've known people that do really have drinking problems. They start and just don't stop until they crash out hard, and have either puked, or made an ass out of themselves on a nightly basis. But I also know people that have a couple every day and think they might have a problem because they feel that it's the only way to unwind.
Which are you?
If you're the "couple a day" person, I'd say don't worry about it. It's actually healthy to use alcohol in moderation... and moderation is either a couple of cans of beer, one shot of hard liquor, or (NOT and), about 6oz. of wine a night.
If you're the "all night binge drinking type", then I'd say to get away from it. However, this is a lot harder to say than do. First off, the biggest thing is, do you have other people in your house that drink? Do you think they'd be supportive of you if you quit drinking? And I mean to the point of keeping you away from the alcohol, and not drinking around you or coming around you plastered three sheets to the wind.
Second, do you have friends that drink? If they do, do you believe that if you told them you were quitting would they be supportive and not offer you alcohol and chastise you if you chose to go get some beer? Would they keep tabs on you to make sure that you weren't drinking or doing anything to enable your old drinking behavior?
When I quit alcohol for quite some time because I was the second type, I hadn't asked my self these questions. But at the time I wasn't living with anyone else so that was one thing I didn't have to worry about. When I informed my friends most of them became kind of begrudged to not be my friends anymore because I chose not to drink (stupid ass reasons = not real friends btw). However, a few stuck by me. They didn't drink around me, and they wouldn't come around me after having a few themselves.
They started keeping tabs on me and would check up on me to make sure I wasn't drinking (checking my fridge, my trash, under my bed, etc., etc.). I wasn't going to AA or anything (that just made me feel like drinking more by hearing stories about drinking), but I had so many people around me being supportive of my actions, that I felt encouraged in myself not to drink. I felt that if I drank, I would not only let my own goals down... but also of those around me that cared.
I stopped for a little over a year (that was my goal too... 1 year), then I decided to pick it up again. Not like I used to, but just a couple once in a while to take the edge off sometimes. At first, my friends still stuck around me to make sure I didn't get carried away. Then when they knew I was gonna be ok, they would come over and chill. I was able to kick back with my friends again and they would get drunk while I was mostly sober and I had no problem with it.
You need to study this one closely however, because there is time in most of our lives that drinking hard can just be a stage, if it lasts for more than say... six months straight then yeah, it could very well be a problem.
Okay, next section.
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On the pot subject... that's more of something from a point of view kind of thing. I know people that can smoke it all day and be completely normal and nice, and there's not a single thing wrong with them. I also know people that smoke all day and won't hardly leave their house... they're too paranoid to. They also have fits of rage and large amounts of lethargy.
You need to ask yourself these questions:
Is it inhibiting me to do anything else illegal? Most times people say no to this one, and even pot is on shaky ground as far as even being illegal goes, but there are those that will be encouraged to do some really stupid shit like driving ass-hattedly down the road, or breaking and entering. Some even will steal to support their habit.
Is it preventing me from doing things I would do otherwise? Other than going to church or working for the government, pot smokers can function in most other types of social environments quite normally. And most can keep from looking stoned. However of course, there are those that will keep themselves from going to social functions, weddings, work, or even a stroll in the park because "they got high".
Is it causing problems in your relationships with others? This one is tricky because there will always more than likely be people in your family that you will butt heads with over the subject of smoking pot. What this question means is like, does this cause stupid arguments over ridiculous things that have no real resolvable issue that otherwise wouldn't probably even come up in the normal scene of everyday life?
Is it affecting your sex life? For some it doesn't, but most that I talk to have a problem in this said category. They either smoke a lot and get to the point where their sex drive goes way down OR, they feel like the only way they can get "in the mood" is by puffing a couple hits off a joint or hitting a bowl. I'm not sure about the first category, but I know that pot can be a depressant to some people and, depressants naturally bring your drives down. In the second category, what happens is that the chemicals that THC breaks down into in our brains can wind up changing the shape of the receptors that brings pleasure or adrenaline {dopamine, and since I don't have my psych book on hand I can't remember the name of the other}. When this happens, the only way that that person can generally receive those types of signals from their brain IS by taking a couple of "tokes". This can also happen with other drugs, the most common being meth.
Is it affecting your cognitive/comprehensive skills? If the answer to only this one is yes, then what you should do to change is to cut the fuck down on your usage. Obviously, if your ability to drive or function normally diminishes and becomes impaired... you shouldn't use during that time frame or even if you might be planning on going out during that day. Like my brother in law (who shall remain nameless), who only smokes late at night after the kids are tucked in before going to bed himself. If your speech or motor functions are becoming impaired by this and it makes you feel like a dunce, then the same advice applies. Cutting back will cause most feelings of normalcy to return.
If the answer to more than one of these questions is yes, then you might just need to quit. Other times though, it can be the environment that you're in that can cause these negative effects from smoking. Like if you're living with an abusive/negative significant other/relative, then it can cause some negative behavior from smoking the pot. If that's the case then my advice is to take a break from the pot. Take a bit to clear your head so you can step back and assess the situation with a straight mind and make the decision on what to do next.
If your answer to all except for the impairment one, or all of the questions on pot is no... then I'd say that your problem isn't as bad as you think. If you said no to all, then I'd say keep right on and rock and roll with your bad self. If you said yes to that one though, take my advice that I wrote on it.
Well that's about the best advice that I can give. I'll see ya' around Meeps.
Which are you?
If you're the "couple a day" person, I'd say don't worry about it. It's actually healthy to use alcohol in moderation... and moderation is either a couple of cans of beer, one shot of hard liquor, or (NOT and), about 6oz. of wine a night.
If you're the "all night binge drinking type", then I'd say to get away from it. However, this is a lot harder to say than do. First off, the biggest thing is, do you have other people in your house that drink? Do you think they'd be supportive of you if you quit drinking? And I mean to the point of keeping you away from the alcohol, and not drinking around you or coming around you plastered three sheets to the wind.
Second, do you have friends that drink? If they do, do you believe that if you told them you were quitting would they be supportive and not offer you alcohol and chastise you if you chose to go get some beer? Would they keep tabs on you to make sure that you weren't drinking or doing anything to enable your old drinking behavior?
When I quit alcohol for quite some time because I was the second type, I hadn't asked my self these questions. But at the time I wasn't living with anyone else so that was one thing I didn't have to worry about. When I informed my friends most of them became kind of begrudged to not be my friends anymore because I chose not to drink (stupid ass reasons = not real friends btw). However, a few stuck by me. They didn't drink around me, and they wouldn't come around me after having a few themselves.
They started keeping tabs on me and would check up on me to make sure I wasn't drinking (checking my fridge, my trash, under my bed, etc., etc.). I wasn't going to AA or anything (that just made me feel like drinking more by hearing stories about drinking), but I had so many people around me being supportive of my actions, that I felt encouraged in myself not to drink. I felt that if I drank, I would not only let my own goals down... but also of those around me that cared.
I stopped for a little over a year (that was my goal too... 1 year), then I decided to pick it up again. Not like I used to, but just a couple once in a while to take the edge off sometimes. At first, my friends still stuck around me to make sure I didn't get carried away. Then when they knew I was gonna be ok, they would come over and chill. I was able to kick back with my friends again and they would get drunk while I was mostly sober and I had no problem with it.
You need to study this one closely however, because there is time in most of our lives that drinking hard can just be a stage, if it lasts for more than say... six months straight then yeah, it could very well be a problem.
Okay, next section.
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On the pot subject... that's more of something from a point of view kind of thing. I know people that can smoke it all day and be completely normal and nice, and there's not a single thing wrong with them. I also know people that smoke all day and won't hardly leave their house... they're too paranoid to. They also have fits of rage and large amounts of lethargy.
You need to ask yourself these questions:
Is it inhibiting me to do anything else illegal? Most times people say no to this one, and even pot is on shaky ground as far as even being illegal goes, but there are those that will be encouraged to do some really stupid shit like driving ass-hattedly down the road, or breaking and entering. Some even will steal to support their habit.
Is it preventing me from doing things I would do otherwise? Other than going to church or working for the government, pot smokers can function in most other types of social environments quite normally. And most can keep from looking stoned. However of course, there are those that will keep themselves from going to social functions, weddings, work, or even a stroll in the park because "they got high".
Is it causing problems in your relationships with others? This one is tricky because there will always more than likely be people in your family that you will butt heads with over the subject of smoking pot. What this question means is like, does this cause stupid arguments over ridiculous things that have no real resolvable issue that otherwise wouldn't probably even come up in the normal scene of everyday life?
Is it affecting your sex life? For some it doesn't, but most that I talk to have a problem in this said category. They either smoke a lot and get to the point where their sex drive goes way down OR, they feel like the only way they can get "in the mood" is by puffing a couple hits off a joint or hitting a bowl. I'm not sure about the first category, but I know that pot can be a depressant to some people and, depressants naturally bring your drives down. In the second category, what happens is that the chemicals that THC breaks down into in our brains can wind up changing the shape of the receptors that brings pleasure or adrenaline {dopamine, and since I don't have my psych book on hand I can't remember the name of the other}. When this happens, the only way that that person can generally receive those types of signals from their brain IS by taking a couple of "tokes". This can also happen with other drugs, the most common being meth.
Is it affecting your cognitive/comprehensive skills? If the answer to only this one is yes, then what you should do to change is to cut the fuck down on your usage. Obviously, if your ability to drive or function normally diminishes and becomes impaired... you shouldn't use during that time frame or even if you might be planning on going out during that day. Like my brother in law (who shall remain nameless), who only smokes late at night after the kids are tucked in before going to bed himself. If your speech or motor functions are becoming impaired by this and it makes you feel like a dunce, then the same advice applies. Cutting back will cause most feelings of normalcy to return.
If the answer to more than one of these questions is yes, then you might just need to quit. Other times though, it can be the environment that you're in that can cause these negative effects from smoking. Like if you're living with an abusive/negative significant other/relative, then it can cause some negative behavior from smoking the pot. If that's the case then my advice is to take a break from the pot. Take a bit to clear your head so you can step back and assess the situation with a straight mind and make the decision on what to do next.
If your answer to all except for the impairment one, or all of the questions on pot is no... then I'd say that your problem isn't as bad as you think. If you said no to all, then I'd say keep right on and rock and roll with your bad self. If you said yes to that one though, take my advice that I wrote on it.
Well that's about the best advice that I can give. I'll see ya' around Meeps.