ok to make a long story short, i had a bf and broke up with him recently because i couldn't get over my ex so me and my ex have been trying to work things out.
Me and my ex dated for about 3 years. he was a virgin when he met me and is now not. I am am still the only girl he has been with so he hasn't had sex in the 5 months we have been broken up.
Me and my ex had alot of issues and now we have even more because i dated another guy after him who i had sexual relations with and it hurts my ex to think about that. ok, thats understandable i guess. But for the past week in a half, i have been trying to save our relationships. work things out and make us happy together again. well, it turns out all we have been doing is arguing and all he wants to do it have sex.
Ok, for example: last night we got in the worst fight. I don't know what was wrong. we made dinner, we watched a good movie, we kissed a little, but thats about as far as i would go. I want to be emotionally stable with him before we mix sex into the picture. that makes sense right? sex clouds the brain sometimes ya know. we were going to bed and he was like "i think im going home." and he wouldn't tell me why. Anyways, we end up fighting REALLY bad and finally i find out it was because i wasn't giving him the attention he needed. i kissed him, i cuddled with, i laughed with, i talked with him, i hugged him. the only thing missing from our night was a sexual act...
Basically he ends up sleeping on the couch and waking up an hour later coming in and telling me he was sorry. kissing me and started cuddling with me. I appologize and im happy cuz we are ok and all i want to do is just lay there and have him hold me. Then he starts touching me and trying to get down my pants AGAIN! i am like wtf? do you not understand that i just don't want to have sex with you yet. he says "we don't have to have sex, i just want to do stuff to you." (sorry, but thats like the same thing to me) so i say no. He gets frustrated, goes into the bathroom and jacks off himself!!! then comes back in, turns his back to me and trys to sleep. i say "ok, you don't want to cuddle with me anymore?" he says "i get too turned on when i am next to you." and i cry myself to sleep.
I tell him my feelings the next day that i feel like all he cares about is sex and not fixing things with me. He gets mad that i think this and says that everytime i reject him, all he can think about is how i probably wouldn't reject the last guy i dated. he says he hasn't had sex in 5 months and he has needs. he claims that sex is a huge part of a relationship and its stress relieving. he says the fact that i shared that with someone else and won't again with him destroys him. he thinks that there is nothing to fix, but hello? he is still so hung up over my last bf and me and we had a bad breakup. is it really so wrong to want to concentrate on us and leave the sexual part out of it for a bit?
and you know what? maybe i would want to do it if he would be romantic about it and not just grope me and try to get down my pants like a horny 16 year old boy. ya know? what do you think? is he the wrong or am i? is this normal guy behavior???
Me and my ex dated for about 3 years. he was a virgin when he met me and is now not. I am am still the only girl he has been with so he hasn't had sex in the 5 months we have been broken up.
Me and my ex had alot of issues and now we have even more because i dated another guy after him who i had sexual relations with and it hurts my ex to think about that. ok, thats understandable i guess. But for the past week in a half, i have been trying to save our relationships. work things out and make us happy together again. well, it turns out all we have been doing is arguing and all he wants to do it have sex.
Ok, for example: last night we got in the worst fight. I don't know what was wrong. we made dinner, we watched a good movie, we kissed a little, but thats about as far as i would go. I want to be emotionally stable with him before we mix sex into the picture. that makes sense right? sex clouds the brain sometimes ya know. we were going to bed and he was like "i think im going home." and he wouldn't tell me why. Anyways, we end up fighting REALLY bad and finally i find out it was because i wasn't giving him the attention he needed. i kissed him, i cuddled with, i laughed with, i talked with him, i hugged him. the only thing missing from our night was a sexual act...
Basically he ends up sleeping on the couch and waking up an hour later coming in and telling me he was sorry. kissing me and started cuddling with me. I appologize and im happy cuz we are ok and all i want to do is just lay there and have him hold me. Then he starts touching me and trying to get down my pants AGAIN! i am like wtf? do you not understand that i just don't want to have sex with you yet. he says "we don't have to have sex, i just want to do stuff to you." (sorry, but thats like the same thing to me) so i say no. He gets frustrated, goes into the bathroom and jacks off himself!!! then comes back in, turns his back to me and trys to sleep. i say "ok, you don't want to cuddle with me anymore?" he says "i get too turned on when i am next to you." and i cry myself to sleep.
I tell him my feelings the next day that i feel like all he cares about is sex and not fixing things with me. He gets mad that i think this and says that everytime i reject him, all he can think about is how i probably wouldn't reject the last guy i dated. he says he hasn't had sex in 5 months and he has needs. he claims that sex is a huge part of a relationship and its stress relieving. he says the fact that i shared that with someone else and won't again with him destroys him. he thinks that there is nothing to fix, but hello? he is still so hung up over my last bf and me and we had a bad breakup. is it really so wrong to want to concentrate on us and leave the sexual part out of it for a bit?
and you know what? maybe i would want to do it if he would be romantic about it and not just grope me and try to get down my pants like a horny 16 year old boy. ya know? what do you think? is he the wrong or am i? is this normal guy behavior???