we r in early college, different types if engineering majors, and we can be a little nerdy sometimes
needless to say, I dont have a lot of experience...
ok, so we joke all the time. We were jokingly told to stop flirting by a friend recently, which we both kind of ignored and went on as if it hadnt been said (i didnt know we were flirting)
He wouldn't talk about his family, or religion, etc, and idk why, most of us are pretty open about it. He did finally mention a sister, but when i said I didnt know he had a sister, he shrugged and got almost kind of defensive about it. But he has since opened up and mentioned his family with me more and more, volunteering info to me rather than the others. So i think he may have just needed someone to show an interest.
He is usually really sweet and funny, and he usually tries to make sure I (and seemingly just me) know when he says something along the lines of the inside jokes our group has. He randomly pulls me into conversation, and tries to make sure to keep them going when in person. He's horrible about text conversations though, but its just text, so i think thats just not his thing
I said something about leaving the room in which we all hang out, and he said "aw, are you leaving already?" in a jokingly whiny sort of tone.
He seems really hesitant to make any sort of physical contact. When he does make physical contact, its really small and random, like he randomly high fived me for no real reason earlier other than the fact he had gotten a homework problem right, (which he does them right all the time, and has never made a big deal of it before). He kinda seems to show off (in a nerdy way) sometimes. Like proving that he has managed a perfect bowling score hours after the conversation was over.
Also, the other day I walk into the room that we do hmwk and stuff in for the program we are in. He was working on a problem and cldnt figure it out. I saw him walk over to a computer and close something, then walk over to me to ask to use the solutions manuel i have on my pc. Did he close something online to come use mine? Or is that nothing?
One day I moved closer to look at his computer or something, and he moved away (just him, not the computer). But last week when we were sitting both in spinny chairs and i turned and my knee hit him, he offered to move over, but when i said he was fine, he didnt. then the other night, I sat purposefully really close and he was fine.
the week before break started he didnt walk i and another girl to our building when we asked (it was dark and late and there is a rapist loose in our area) though he did offer for us to walk to his car with him which was in a garage on the way to my dorm, and him drop us off. We said no to because of the cold and wind. Several of us went to an amusement park the next day and he bailed last minute. I'm the one that invited him. he would have also been the only guy, and he didnt know one of the other two girls going.
once break started, i tried texting him a couple days in. At first i got the impression he didn't want to talk, so I let it go, but half an hour later i got another text from him, nicer, continuing conversation for a little longer. He hs blown off texts before (my friend says she has seen him do it when they are studying) but he blows off everyone's texts (according to the same friend). I haven't tried talking to him or he to me, since then, since we don't see each other over break, with the exception of a mass merry christmas text. Which he did respond to if awkwardly, and sent a random text later in the day. I responded to that but then he never said anything else. (but its christmas, i know the drill, family first.)
I dont know what is important and what is not so, does he seem to like me? and if so what do I do? How can I let him know i like him without being obvious or going too far and freaking him out?
oh and btw, chivalry is a great big fat zero. He's a smart guy, so idk if he should automatically know to do that or if with feminism the way it is, He is one of the guys that thinks he isnt supposed to anymore. Or it could be he really doesn't care. I dunno
needless to say, I dont have a lot of experience...
ok, so we joke all the time. We were jokingly told to stop flirting by a friend recently, which we both kind of ignored and went on as if it hadnt been said (i didnt know we were flirting)
He wouldn't talk about his family, or religion, etc, and idk why, most of us are pretty open about it. He did finally mention a sister, but when i said I didnt know he had a sister, he shrugged and got almost kind of defensive about it. But he has since opened up and mentioned his family with me more and more, volunteering info to me rather than the others. So i think he may have just needed someone to show an interest.
He is usually really sweet and funny, and he usually tries to make sure I (and seemingly just me) know when he says something along the lines of the inside jokes our group has. He randomly pulls me into conversation, and tries to make sure to keep them going when in person. He's horrible about text conversations though, but its just text, so i think thats just not his thing
I said something about leaving the room in which we all hang out, and he said "aw, are you leaving already?" in a jokingly whiny sort of tone.
He seems really hesitant to make any sort of physical contact. When he does make physical contact, its really small and random, like he randomly high fived me for no real reason earlier other than the fact he had gotten a homework problem right, (which he does them right all the time, and has never made a big deal of it before). He kinda seems to show off (in a nerdy way) sometimes. Like proving that he has managed a perfect bowling score hours after the conversation was over.
Also, the other day I walk into the room that we do hmwk and stuff in for the program we are in. He was working on a problem and cldnt figure it out. I saw him walk over to a computer and close something, then walk over to me to ask to use the solutions manuel i have on my pc. Did he close something online to come use mine? Or is that nothing?
One day I moved closer to look at his computer or something, and he moved away (just him, not the computer). But last week when we were sitting both in spinny chairs and i turned and my knee hit him, he offered to move over, but when i said he was fine, he didnt. then the other night, I sat purposefully really close and he was fine.
the week before break started he didnt walk i and another girl to our building when we asked (it was dark and late and there is a rapist loose in our area) though he did offer for us to walk to his car with him which was in a garage on the way to my dorm, and him drop us off. We said no to because of the cold and wind. Several of us went to an amusement park the next day and he bailed last minute. I'm the one that invited him. he would have also been the only guy, and he didnt know one of the other two girls going.
once break started, i tried texting him a couple days in. At first i got the impression he didn't want to talk, so I let it go, but half an hour later i got another text from him, nicer, continuing conversation for a little longer. He hs blown off texts before (my friend says she has seen him do it when they are studying) but he blows off everyone's texts (according to the same friend). I haven't tried talking to him or he to me, since then, since we don't see each other over break, with the exception of a mass merry christmas text. Which he did respond to if awkwardly, and sent a random text later in the day. I responded to that but then he never said anything else. (but its christmas, i know the drill, family first.)
I dont know what is important and what is not so, does he seem to like me? and if so what do I do? How can I let him know i like him without being obvious or going too far and freaking him out?
oh and btw, chivalry is a great big fat zero. He's a smart guy, so idk if he should automatically know to do that or if with feminism the way it is, He is one of the guys that thinks he isnt supposed to anymore. Or it could be he really doesn't care. I dunno