Grooms parents don't speak. How is our wedding going to work?!?

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Sarah

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We are getting married in 5 months and my fiances parents don't speak. They obviously won't be sitting at the same table, but just wondering how we would word the invite? My parents really want to be on it because they are paying for most of it. But Grooms parents now have different sir names and no new partners. Help?!

Also, when the reception starts, we want to all be introduced and walk in. Etc - The bridesmaids and their partners, then the parents then us! It is a traditional thing in our family and the weddings we have been to but grooms family say they have never seen it and don't want to do it! (Probably because they don't want to walk in together) How normal is it to do this?!

Thanks!
 
You do not try to adjust your family makeup to fit into the "happy couple, mr & mrs bridesfolks, mr & mrs groomspeople" format. Rather you adjust your format to "happy couple, mr & mrs bridesfolks, ms hismom, mr groomspeople" family makeup.

In the old days when the bride's family did the whole wedding and the groom's family were just guests, it was customary for the bride's family to issue invitations and designate themselves as the hosts. In modern times, it is anybodys guess who is paying for the wedding and invitations should keep it that way. Who paid for what is a private matter and the invitation shouldn't give any indication.

The honour of the presence of
[write in names -- none of that sloppy &guest or &family stuff]
is requested at the marriage of
Bonnie Bridesfolks, daughter of
Boris and Brenda Bridesfolks, to
Gregory Groomspeople, son of
Gayle Hismom and
George Groomspeople
At Two O'Clock.... etc etc etc.

I get hate mail on this, but it's not really correct to "make an enentrance to your own party. The correct thing is for hosts (parents), Guests of Honor (newlyweds), and deputy hosts (attendants) to be on hand to receive guests as they arrive. If the groom's parents aren't next to each other in the receiving line, thier mutual dislike shouldn't be a problem.
 
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