LosingMyMind212
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I have a five year old niece whom I love more than anyone or anything in the universe. We've been inseparable since day one.
The ill world we live in is the only thing I fear - everything being over-saturated with sex, I worry that she'll get the wrong ideas and be pressured by all of it. She is at times a little too "curious" of things. Her parents do not help matters as they subject her to a lot of it, watching movies that may as well be categorized as pornography or saying rude things around her. They claim she isn't paying attention which is an ignorant thing to say when her eyes are glued to the TV while people are having sex in the movie (and I don't mean G-rated sex, I mean full blown f**king that has a R-rating. Like I said, you might as well put a porno on and let her watch that.) I'm not claiming they are "bad" parents (though I wish they'd slip up somehow so I could take her with me), but they really need to grow up themselves and open their eyes. Heck, the other night, they let her taste beer to which she said she liked and they'll smoke dope in the house (she's not in the room, but like cigarettes, it travels). They definitely do not help matters and they would never take the time to talk to her about any of this (not that I think it be wise they did because they would give her the wrong impressions - they believe kids should grow up without borders, aimlessly, learning "everything" on their own - that is just asking for trouble. Kids need [proper] guidance.)
My niece looks up to me and I know she loves me - she tells me all the time that she wishes I was her dad or that she could live with me. But that is because I do so much with her and I've never yelled at her or hit/spanked her for anything. Ever. She was only sassy with me once and all I did was talk to her and she got a bit upset thinking I was mad at her, but I just talked to her (instead of yelling and swearing like her parents do) and she quickly calmed down and was all smiles and giggles in minutes with me.
Back on-topic now. My niece will be with me a lot more now as both her parents are going back to work so I'll be looking after her. I have pretty good judgment so I'd like to be the one to talk to her especially about good touch and bad touch. I just don't know how to approach it. I'm very protective of her. Probably over-protective at times, but can you ever be too safe in this ill world? She is too trusting of people. Be it family or stranger. Again, her parents have never even had the stranger-danger talk with her yet. And anything I advise them to do as for her safety (like not allowing just anyone to pick her up from the bus or not putting her name on the outside of her back pack) they completely ignore. So now when she is walking anywhere with her back back, anyone will know her name and by just that, she may trust them enough to go with them. They're lazy.
Thankfully the sex talk has not arose yet (I honestly hope it never enters her thoughts, but...) so it's not my biggest concern yet. I wish I could just put a chastity belt on her.
So where do I start?
Thank you.
(Sorry this is so long)
The ill world we live in is the only thing I fear - everything being over-saturated with sex, I worry that she'll get the wrong ideas and be pressured by all of it. She is at times a little too "curious" of things. Her parents do not help matters as they subject her to a lot of it, watching movies that may as well be categorized as pornography or saying rude things around her. They claim she isn't paying attention which is an ignorant thing to say when her eyes are glued to the TV while people are having sex in the movie (and I don't mean G-rated sex, I mean full blown f**king that has a R-rating. Like I said, you might as well put a porno on and let her watch that.) I'm not claiming they are "bad" parents (though I wish they'd slip up somehow so I could take her with me), but they really need to grow up themselves and open their eyes. Heck, the other night, they let her taste beer to which she said she liked and they'll smoke dope in the house (she's not in the room, but like cigarettes, it travels). They definitely do not help matters and they would never take the time to talk to her about any of this (not that I think it be wise they did because they would give her the wrong impressions - they believe kids should grow up without borders, aimlessly, learning "everything" on their own - that is just asking for trouble. Kids need [proper] guidance.)
My niece looks up to me and I know she loves me - she tells me all the time that she wishes I was her dad or that she could live with me. But that is because I do so much with her and I've never yelled at her or hit/spanked her for anything. Ever. She was only sassy with me once and all I did was talk to her and she got a bit upset thinking I was mad at her, but I just talked to her (instead of yelling and swearing like her parents do) and she quickly calmed down and was all smiles and giggles in minutes with me.
Back on-topic now. My niece will be with me a lot more now as both her parents are going back to work so I'll be looking after her. I have pretty good judgment so I'd like to be the one to talk to her especially about good touch and bad touch. I just don't know how to approach it. I'm very protective of her. Probably over-protective at times, but can you ever be too safe in this ill world? She is too trusting of people. Be it family or stranger. Again, her parents have never even had the stranger-danger talk with her yet. And anything I advise them to do as for her safety (like not allowing just anyone to pick her up from the bus or not putting her name on the outside of her back pack) they completely ignore. So now when she is walking anywhere with her back back, anyone will know her name and by just that, she may trust them enough to go with them. They're lazy.
Thankfully the sex talk has not arose yet (I honestly hope it never enters her thoughts, but...) so it's not my biggest concern yet. I wish I could just put a chastity belt on her.
So where do I start?
Thank you.
(Sorry this is so long)