Hi.
My problem: Girlfriend never takes initiative to sex, and doesn't think it's all that great. She never "plays with herself", and claims if she was single, she could easily go years without any sexual stimulation, from both herself or others. In other words, I have feared she might be asexual, but there are several reasons why I think she isn't.
Sometimes, on VERY rare occasions (less than 10 times from the 1,5 years we've been together) she has taken initiative to sex. At those times, she is very eager and seems to enjoy it a lot more, but those situations come rarely, but taking in consideration they DO come, I assume she is not asexual (correct me here if I am wrong).
To help you understand our situation, here's a quick rundown on our backgrounds:
Me and my girlfriend have been together for approximately 1,5 year now, she's 20 and I'm 23.
She was raised in a christian farmer family, and spent all her childhood on studies and books, and barely any social interaction. She is really social to the few people she knows, though. In contradiction to this, she is very healthy, almost 100% vegetarian, and her body gets plenty of everything it needs (she watches her diet VERY accurately), so I don't think lack of, say, iron etc is the reason for this.
Myself, I grew up in a big city, and am quite used to busy surroundings and having lots of people around me, and am used to a healthy sex life with my previous partners. This relationship is really tearing me down, because aside from the sex part, everything looks as good as it can be. We're working out together, have moved together, having good and open communication, etc.
I really do not want to see all this go down the drain because of this particular problem.
About the sex specifically: She seems to enjoy very little sensation from ordinary "in-out" sex, and only gets her climax by lots of pressure on her clitoris from my pelvis, although during direct stimulation of clitoris with either fingers or tongue, she barely feels anything. She is never overly sensitive. I am approximately 18-19cm, but very big in diameter, so I don't think the size is the problem, as we're already having problems me hitting her "inner walls" at times, causing discomfort. She assures me the problem is not related to my "performance", but what do I know.
What boggles my mind is this: She can get her climaxes during sex, and naturally, the better the foreplay the better the sex. This leads me to think she should periodically have some urge to come back for more, but no. I know from experience that if you get too much of it, it just isn't that good anymore. But we're having sex like, once every 2 weeks, and it is more than I can manage, being used to "twice-a-day" relationships (which I know is excessive, but 2-3 days a week sounds fair, doesn't it.. ?).
I know this is a lot to read, but I do pray someone takes the time to give us some feedback, because we're poor students who can't afford sexual therapy sessions, and this may well soon start tipping over the edge..
Thanks in advance.
My problem: Girlfriend never takes initiative to sex, and doesn't think it's all that great. She never "plays with herself", and claims if she was single, she could easily go years without any sexual stimulation, from both herself or others. In other words, I have feared she might be asexual, but there are several reasons why I think she isn't.
Sometimes, on VERY rare occasions (less than 10 times from the 1,5 years we've been together) she has taken initiative to sex. At those times, she is very eager and seems to enjoy it a lot more, but those situations come rarely, but taking in consideration they DO come, I assume she is not asexual (correct me here if I am wrong).
To help you understand our situation, here's a quick rundown on our backgrounds:
Me and my girlfriend have been together for approximately 1,5 year now, she's 20 and I'm 23.
She was raised in a christian farmer family, and spent all her childhood on studies and books, and barely any social interaction. She is really social to the few people she knows, though. In contradiction to this, she is very healthy, almost 100% vegetarian, and her body gets plenty of everything it needs (she watches her diet VERY accurately), so I don't think lack of, say, iron etc is the reason for this.
Myself, I grew up in a big city, and am quite used to busy surroundings and having lots of people around me, and am used to a healthy sex life with my previous partners. This relationship is really tearing me down, because aside from the sex part, everything looks as good as it can be. We're working out together, have moved together, having good and open communication, etc.
I really do not want to see all this go down the drain because of this particular problem.
About the sex specifically: She seems to enjoy very little sensation from ordinary "in-out" sex, and only gets her climax by lots of pressure on her clitoris from my pelvis, although during direct stimulation of clitoris with either fingers or tongue, she barely feels anything. She is never overly sensitive. I am approximately 18-19cm, but very big in diameter, so I don't think the size is the problem, as we're already having problems me hitting her "inner walls" at times, causing discomfort. She assures me the problem is not related to my "performance", but what do I know.
What boggles my mind is this: She can get her climaxes during sex, and naturally, the better the foreplay the better the sex. This leads me to think she should periodically have some urge to come back for more, but no. I know from experience that if you get too much of it, it just isn't that good anymore. But we're having sex like, once every 2 weeks, and it is more than I can manage, being used to "twice-a-day" relationships (which I know is excessive, but 2-3 days a week sounds fair, doesn't it.. ?).
I know this is a lot to read, but I do pray someone takes the time to give us some feedback, because we're poor students who can't afford sexual therapy sessions, and this may well soon start tipping over the edge..
Thanks in advance.