My girlfriend and I got together after she broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years for me. She was originally supposed to move 1000 miles away with him to where he is stationed in the military.
When I first met her before romantic involvement was even a consideration, she was apprehensive about going. She feigned she was convinced with going, but I could tell she wasn't. She loved the guy out of the belief that no one else could love her.
In the 3 years she was with him, they broke up 12 times. She said he smothered her individuality, told her how to act, never allowed her to have a social life, and that she always had to give up her dreams for him.
Now in our relationship, we chose to take some space last week. However, when we went out with friends, and she was still all over me. The next day she asked why I went home, and didn't sleep over or kiss her goodnight. I just simply told her I was exhausted. Things seemed ok, as she still called me baby and hun.
Today she all of a sudden told me in 2 weeks she is leaving the state to get back with her ex. Obviously she caught me by surprise. I just told her it is what it is, and I am grateful for the time we had, and I wish her the best of luck.
Now we work together, and she did this at work, via email (classy, eh?). Well I started to notice that she was getting upset when I wasnt getting upset. First I got the vibe through the emails, and then I saw her stepping out. She came back in with her make up running and tears in her eyes. This happened twice. I asked her what was the matter, and she said she felt bad and didnt want hurt me, and was just upset. I didn't buy it. When I told her it was fine, she says "OK I GET IT, YOU DONT CARE".
I immediately took this whole thing as a huge stunt. I told her I would just come pick up at my things at her house. She showed reluctance, and I told her it would be fine. When I got to her house, she conveniently couldnt only find some of things. When I started to leave, she pouted and honestly looked like she was about to cry. I told her it was ok, everything was fine. She asked me why I was acting all cool about it, and kept bating me into telling her that I cared about her (which would lead to me telling her not to leave). I didnt, and she said obviously if I wasnt bothered by the break up, the realtionshiop meant nothing, and everything I told her about how I felt was a lie. I just said I cared about her, and wanted the best for her and left.
She is a very attractive girl, but is very insecure. She has a reputation for playing mind games. The way I took this was that it was a giant stunt to get me to tell her I loved her and I didn't want her to go, which I was not going to do.
Is this the impression you get, or do you think she is really intending on going? If it is stunt, I am very concerned (because she needs help!).
I originally intended on playing the game, but realized either way the relationship is over (I will not tolerate games), and decided to call her, and tell her she didnt need to go to these lengths.
She of course flipped out, saying she wasnt lying, why would she lie, she is going blah blah. I told her that I did care deeply about her, but at the same time want what is best for her. She then asked why I was telling her all this.
Like I said, is this a stunt? I am VERY worried about her as just a friend. I am also worried about her possibly moving away to be with this guy, because I know it is wrong, regardless of our relationship.
Advice?
When I first met her before romantic involvement was even a consideration, she was apprehensive about going. She feigned she was convinced with going, but I could tell she wasn't. She loved the guy out of the belief that no one else could love her.
In the 3 years she was with him, they broke up 12 times. She said he smothered her individuality, told her how to act, never allowed her to have a social life, and that she always had to give up her dreams for him.
Now in our relationship, we chose to take some space last week. However, when we went out with friends, and she was still all over me. The next day she asked why I went home, and didn't sleep over or kiss her goodnight. I just simply told her I was exhausted. Things seemed ok, as she still called me baby and hun.
Today she all of a sudden told me in 2 weeks she is leaving the state to get back with her ex. Obviously she caught me by surprise. I just told her it is what it is, and I am grateful for the time we had, and I wish her the best of luck.
Now we work together, and she did this at work, via email (classy, eh?). Well I started to notice that she was getting upset when I wasnt getting upset. First I got the vibe through the emails, and then I saw her stepping out. She came back in with her make up running and tears in her eyes. This happened twice. I asked her what was the matter, and she said she felt bad and didnt want hurt me, and was just upset. I didn't buy it. When I told her it was fine, she says "OK I GET IT, YOU DONT CARE".
I immediately took this whole thing as a huge stunt. I told her I would just come pick up at my things at her house. She showed reluctance, and I told her it would be fine. When I got to her house, she conveniently couldnt only find some of things. When I started to leave, she pouted and honestly looked like she was about to cry. I told her it was ok, everything was fine. She asked me why I was acting all cool about it, and kept bating me into telling her that I cared about her (which would lead to me telling her not to leave). I didnt, and she said obviously if I wasnt bothered by the break up, the realtionshiop meant nothing, and everything I told her about how I felt was a lie. I just said I cared about her, and wanted the best for her and left.
She is a very attractive girl, but is very insecure. She has a reputation for playing mind games. The way I took this was that it was a giant stunt to get me to tell her I loved her and I didn't want her to go, which I was not going to do.
Is this the impression you get, or do you think she is really intending on going? If it is stunt, I am very concerned (because she needs help!).
I originally intended on playing the game, but realized either way the relationship is over (I will not tolerate games), and decided to call her, and tell her she didnt need to go to these lengths.
She of course flipped out, saying she wasnt lying, why would she lie, she is going blah blah. I told her that I did care deeply about her, but at the same time want what is best for her. She then asked why I was telling her all this.
Like I said, is this a stunt? I am VERY worried about her as just a friend. I am also worried about her possibly moving away to be with this guy, because I know it is wrong, regardless of our relationship.
Advice?