Ella's Mommy
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My daughter is almost 22 months. In the past month she has started repeating everything and telling me what she wants, just simple words. So if she wants her cup, she says "cup"...if she wants up, she says "up"...and i've been trying to encourage this instead of whining/grunting. Overall it's been going great! I don't usually deny her much, if she wants a hug or to be held and she says "hug" or "up" calmly i will drop what i'm doing to hold her, because i want to understand that NOT screaming is how she gets things, so i don't want her to wait and get to the point where she starts screaming. I think it might be starting to backfire on me though....
If i truly cannot drop everything the minute she asks nice, she immediately starts screaming, which at that point i don't want to cater to her because i don't want her to learn that screaming is the way to get things. So i need to find a balance and somehow teach her a little patience because she doesn't have ANY. Yes i know toddlers are impatient but i can still teach her patience, right?
In the store she's been pulling this. Like when i'm paying and she's in the cart...she'll want a snack that she sees or want me to hold her and if i don't tend to her within a second of her asking she freaks out. It's embarrassing. She's been stubborn as well, which i know is part of her age and i asked a similar question earlier and i think i'm doing ok there....but if she isn't going to listen and only want things her way and not take redirection from me, then strapping her in the stroller and letting her scream is what i need to do?
On a daily basis i distract, redirect, praise, use positive encouragement, let her help me, involve her in what i'm doing. My day is only spent with her, i'm a SAHM so she has my undivided attention. So trust me, i try everything i can. She's just changing a bit personality wise and is more independent but obviously she can't always do what she wants to. So any good advice?
If i truly cannot drop everything the minute she asks nice, she immediately starts screaming, which at that point i don't want to cater to her because i don't want her to learn that screaming is the way to get things. So i need to find a balance and somehow teach her a little patience because she doesn't have ANY. Yes i know toddlers are impatient but i can still teach her patience, right?
In the store she's been pulling this. Like when i'm paying and she's in the cart...she'll want a snack that she sees or want me to hold her and if i don't tend to her within a second of her asking she freaks out. It's embarrassing. She's been stubborn as well, which i know is part of her age and i asked a similar question earlier and i think i'm doing ok there....but if she isn't going to listen and only want things her way and not take redirection from me, then strapping her in the stroller and letting her scream is what i need to do?
On a daily basis i distract, redirect, praise, use positive encouragement, let her help me, involve her in what i'm doing. My day is only spent with her, i'm a SAHM so she has my undivided attention. So trust me, i try everything i can. She's just changing a bit personality wise and is more independent but obviously she can't always do what she wants to. So any good advice?