I met a guy last November in college. He was 21 and I am 18. We hit it off completely and began hanging out everyday. He was everything I wanted...athletic, sexy, fun, charismatic, charming...and we fell in love with each other and began seeing each other for a couple months. We got in a fight over a test message from a girl and stopped seeing each other. I ended it with him because I had a feeling that he might be a player. We didn't talk for a month accept he would text me telling me how much he missed me and I always ignored these texts. Another reason I ended it was he was inconsistent and sometime I felt like he might be using me for sex and it made me uncomfortable. One day he called after a long period of time without talking and told me that he had to tell me something about himself and that we could meet for lunch. I said no, say it over the phone and heres your chance. He said theres no way he could say it over the phone and that its a big deal and it effects me and him.
3 weeks later...we run into each other at school and he begs me to go to lunch and I agree. At lunch, he begins telling me that in high school, he was into gang banging but wanted out and so he joined the military. After his training was done, he was told that he was going to be sent to Iraq. He had a few months until his departure. According to him, he spent most of this time partying and letting lose with friends because he wasn't sure he would return from overseas. One night his friend and him met two girls and had sex with them. The girls turned out to be 15. He was 19 at the time of this incident. According to him, the girl's mother found out and pressed charges. He was convicted for unlawful sex with a minor and even took the blame for his friend for the other girl and never gave out his friend's name. He served 1.5 years out of 3 and got out last April. He showed me his GPS tracker on his ankle and told me that he was unable to go to the beach.
So I've heard a lot about this crime before..in some states it is called statutory rape. In california, it is a misdemeanor and is called unlawful sex with a minor (as long as its consensual.)
All of this information made me nervous so I began researching online. I found the website Megan's Law and searched his full name. Sure enough...there he was. But his offense was not what he said at all. It was "Sexual Battery!" I looked up the penal code or offense code and it is an entirely different crime. I confronted him and he told me that the only reason it states that is because he took the blame for his friend. I began researching all of this and it turns out for the offense of statutory rape the perpetrator is not required to register as a CA registered Sex offender. So it seems like he's lying but I want to talk to an attorney and find out if there's anyway if his crime could have been downgraded.
What should I do? He lied to me for 6 months about who he really was. I feel like I don't know him. But he confided him as a friend and I feel obligated to keep talking to him. Apart of me still has feelings but I'm considering stopping talking to him.
What do you guys think? What should I do?
3 weeks later...we run into each other at school and he begs me to go to lunch and I agree. At lunch, he begins telling me that in high school, he was into gang banging but wanted out and so he joined the military. After his training was done, he was told that he was going to be sent to Iraq. He had a few months until his departure. According to him, he spent most of this time partying and letting lose with friends because he wasn't sure he would return from overseas. One night his friend and him met two girls and had sex with them. The girls turned out to be 15. He was 19 at the time of this incident. According to him, the girl's mother found out and pressed charges. He was convicted for unlawful sex with a minor and even took the blame for his friend for the other girl and never gave out his friend's name. He served 1.5 years out of 3 and got out last April. He showed me his GPS tracker on his ankle and told me that he was unable to go to the beach.
So I've heard a lot about this crime before..in some states it is called statutory rape. In california, it is a misdemeanor and is called unlawful sex with a minor (as long as its consensual.)
All of this information made me nervous so I began researching online. I found the website Megan's Law and searched his full name. Sure enough...there he was. But his offense was not what he said at all. It was "Sexual Battery!" I looked up the penal code or offense code and it is an entirely different crime. I confronted him and he told me that the only reason it states that is because he took the blame for his friend. I began researching all of this and it turns out for the offense of statutory rape the perpetrator is not required to register as a CA registered Sex offender. So it seems like he's lying but I want to talk to an attorney and find out if there's anyway if his crime could have been downgraded.
What should I do? He lied to me for 6 months about who he really was. I feel like I don't know him. But he confided him as a friend and I feel obligated to keep talking to him. Apart of me still has feelings but I'm considering stopping talking to him.
What do you guys think? What should I do?