Friendship: The Good, The Bad, and Everything in Between

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I have quite a large group of friends but I have 5 best best friends. 4 girls (i'm closer to 1 or 2 more than the other) and 1 boy and they're the best things ever.
 
If she thinks that then she's the one who is lame. It's only weak people who follow the crowd without thinking about it. She should be glad to have a friend who possesses the strength of character to make up her own mind. :hug:

Tell her what you think. You can be diplomatic about it, and you don't have to feel bad about what she thinks.
 
This is a very good thread :thumbs_up:

I'm sorry to hear about your best friend, dreamerforlife. You know, i have two best friends, one boy and one girl. The boy and I have had problems in the past. Basically, it was my fault. Not completely my fault, but mostly. We spoke and spoke and we went through difficult moments but now it's just like it was in the past. I'm saying this because things can be fixed, in my opinion. It might be hard, but i think that things can get back to normal. Sooner or later.
Time will tell. :hug:

Talking about me, i have these two best friends who mean everything to me. I seriously couldn't imagine my life without them. I have lost many many friends in my life but i think that they weren't good friendships. :shrug:
 
I also have a friend like this. We aren't as close as we use to be though. We have been friends since middle school and now we are in our senior year. I didn't see her a lot of the summer and I don't have any classes with her, but we still talk via fb. But one night I was at a party where a lot of people were doing drugs and smoking and I saw my friend with a cigarette and she just never seemed like the type of person that would smoke. She even said so herself along time ago. I have a feeling that she does it because of her new bf who also smokes and does drugs. Or maybe it was peer pressure. (even though I decided against it myself) I've never asked her why or when she started. I doubt she would listen to me either. I have a feeling she would just act like I'm lame for not smoking. So I don't know how to bring it up.
 
I try and keep in touch with my 'best' friend via e-mail and we talk once in a while , now that we both are busy with other things ... but she is one I call when I need advice or just to talk and the same with her . My other really good friends are in another state. We moved sometime back and I never really met anybody with whom I can share things. The older you get the harder it is to connect with people or you just don't want to .
My friends and I have gone thru' life together and the friendship has grown and evolved with time , growing kids and life in general. They are the best... apart from this one friend that I am really close to...
 
Friendships do change throughtout your life. Sometimes you still have that one friend that is close to you no matter what. I'm close to my best friend still. We still talk to each other on messager or we visit each other one week.

I'll still your friend's new friends are going to get her into trouble one day. She is going to reget what she did and your friendship with her. Try talking to her again, and if she doesn't listen this time. My best bet is talk to her parents, they might get though to her.
 
It probably depends on the situation and the kind of friends you have. :shrug:

Personally, like I mentioned, I have lost nearly all touch with the friends I've made in high school and there are very few from college that I still talk to.

Then again, I have social insecurities.
 
:hug: But I think the idea was inside you from the start.


Good friendship advice. :nod:
 
yes they do. My friend and I stayed together in high school. We hung out with other people sometimes.

I hate when that happens. I think your best friend's new friend are going to get her into trouble one of these days. She is going to reget she ever didn't listen to you. I remember I watch this movie call Augusta, Gone. Her best friend warned her about her new friends were going to get her into trouble or worst would happen.
 
Haha, it was yours lol. :)

I can relate to leaving friends behind. I used to move a lot too when I was younger and I always tried to tell myself not to become too close to anyone because I knew I'd just leave at the end of the year.

From what I've learned though, friendship is an amazing thing. And the way to maintain long friendships is through honesty, imo. You have to be comfortable with the people you surround yourself around, and also make sure that they're people who like you for who you are and aren't constantly trying to put you down or make you do something you're uncomfortable with. There are few people that will prove themselves to be true friends, but if you find them, they're the most awesome people ever.
 
Friendships do change over time and as we evolve, we change into needing different kinds of friends, I think,

It's hard, though, when one friend gets into drugs and alcohol and doesn't want to listen to your advice.
 
Thanks for this thread. It's a great idea. :nod:

It's hard when a friend begins to change like that but there's usually a reason for the changes. Maybe something upsetting has happened to her that she's not telling anyone about. The drinking could be her way of trying to cope.

Unless she's willing to talk with you, the only thing you can really do is wait to see if the friendship will revive someday. :hug:




..........Me, I'm not good at knowing how to maintain friendships IRL. When I was a kid, my family moved all the time. No kidding--I lived in 10 different US states and went to 12 different schools by the time I graduated high school. And I got used to the idea that friends were just something that I had to leave behind so I just never learned how to make friendships work long-term.

Anyone have any advice?
 
Hey guys, so basically this is just a place to talk about friends and friendship. Talk about our problems with friends, why we love them, why we hate them sometimes, just anything really.

I currently feel like I'm losing my best friend. I just came back from the summer and she's a completely different person. We're seniors in high school, and over the summer she just started getting drunk and smoking with a different group of friends that she has, and she's not the kind of person that would have ever done that stuff before. I don't care so much that she drinks, I mean whatever, a lot of people do, but it's changing her for the worse, and I'm not ok with that. And neither are a lot of her friends but nobody wanted to say anything to her. So I tried talking to her about it, and we had a good talk, but then nothing went back to normal, so it sucks. And I have other best friends, but I'm just really hurt that I feel like I'm losing her. Ughhh!!
 
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