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black_rosmari_
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I need to ask someone for their opinion; I met a friend of my cousin about 7-8 months back and we've been really good friends since then. He's really into heavy metal music and we clicked together since day 1. I had to move away a few months back to finish off my studies, but we kept touch through the messenger and facebook, but it was only a friendship thing from his side, since he was still hang up on his ex.
Now, I recently had another girl friend come into my life, a friend who I used to think as the sole person who could understand me, but who later on just stopped talking to me. About the same time I met my cousin's friend. She's become really important to me again, during the past three months. About a month ago though I decided to return home though and was again hanging out with my cousin's friend. Up until the moment my cousin's friend met my girl friend through skype. He suddenly stopped talking to me, he stopped sharing things, and basically became very distant.
I told my friend that if she were to come herslef back home, that I was afraid that he'd ditch me for her and she was joking that he wouldn't do that and that she has no interest in him whatsoever. So she came back and we stayed in my cousins house for a few days. Both he and she ignored me completely, and he was totally into her, a woman can tell. My cousin noticed too, and I know I am bias, but I felt really bad and jealous that my worries had come true.
I told my girl friend if she could distant her self a bit from him as it really bothered me, but she says that she can't change for me, and that perhaps I don't know her as well as I thought I did.
I'm really confused, as I feel that my girl friend is sort of stealing the position I had in my cousin's friend's life, and sort of stealing my spotlight, since she always wants to be the centre of everyone's attention. I tried to distance myself from her, as I thougt this would help but I don't know if this is the right move for our friendship. I already lost Nicolas (my cousin's friend's name) attention/interest, so I don't know what to do now. I hate feeling jealous. I hate seeing them together, laughing and joking, and I get pushed aside.
What should I do? Should I distance myself? Will that make it better?
Now, I recently had another girl friend come into my life, a friend who I used to think as the sole person who could understand me, but who later on just stopped talking to me. About the same time I met my cousin's friend. She's become really important to me again, during the past three months. About a month ago though I decided to return home though and was again hanging out with my cousin's friend. Up until the moment my cousin's friend met my girl friend through skype. He suddenly stopped talking to me, he stopped sharing things, and basically became very distant.
I told my friend that if she were to come herslef back home, that I was afraid that he'd ditch me for her and she was joking that he wouldn't do that and that she has no interest in him whatsoever. So she came back and we stayed in my cousins house for a few days. Both he and she ignored me completely, and he was totally into her, a woman can tell. My cousin noticed too, and I know I am bias, but I felt really bad and jealous that my worries had come true.
I told my girl friend if she could distant her self a bit from him as it really bothered me, but she says that she can't change for me, and that perhaps I don't know her as well as I thought I did.
I'm really confused, as I feel that my girl friend is sort of stealing the position I had in my cousin's friend's life, and sort of stealing my spotlight, since she always wants to be the centre of everyone's attention. I tried to distance myself from her, as I thougt this would help but I don't know if this is the right move for our friendship. I already lost Nicolas (my cousin's friend's name) attention/interest, so I don't know what to do now. I hate feeling jealous. I hate seeing them together, laughing and joking, and I get pushed aside.
What should I do? Should I distance myself? Will that make it better?