Friendship Drama Issue. Please Help!?

[Maggie_Rose]

Okay, I apologize for the long story, but it is necessary.

So my then best friend Katie was texting me and th subject of our friend Ashton came up, because I was texting her too. Ashton is dating Kevin, and they have been together for awhile, and they both told me that they love each other, but they haven't told each other. I just think that they are adorable. A few weeks before all of this happened, Katie told me that she likes Kevin, and I said I had a problem with it, and we wouldn't talk about it. So Katie texted me asking if I ever talked to Ashton, and I said yeah I'm talking to her now. And she said okay cool, I need updates on their relationship. I want to know when they break up. Now I naturally thought that this was creepy, so I text ed Ashton saying, um Ashton, Katie likes Kevin and she just asked me for updates on your relationship, and I think that you should know that, because I want this all to be cleared up. So Ashton said I was right to tell her and she thanked me. In the meantime, I text ed Katie saying no, Ashton is my friend I'm not going to stalk her relationship. So I was feeling good about myself, feeling like I did the right thing and the next day Katie texted me saying, Why is Ashton texting me? And I said because I told her, It's her relationship, she deserves to know. So she called me, but I missed the call because I pressed a wrong button. So I called Ashton and told her how pissed off Katie was at me and said that I just thought it was creepy. And Ashton was shopping with my friend Hannah, so Hannah texted Katie saying how upset Ashton was that Katie was getting into her personal life. So Katie blew up on Hannah, saying things like you always get into everything and its none of your business. So I checked my voice mail and Katie left a message saying that she thought a friend would get her the information she wanted and that I wasn't being a good friend. Meanwhile she goes and whines to my friends Gretel and Theresa and they got kinda mad at me because Katie made it sound like I was being a bitch, but I gave them my side and they said that she was a little creepy. So while Ashton and Hannah are trying to smooth things over, all the old arguments between me and Katie pop up and we just hate each other. So she said everyone was giving her hell for asking about updates and I should make things better for her. I said no, you caused this by being creepy, I'm tired of taking orders for you, I'm done. And Katie got mad and we haven't spoken in a week and now I sit at Ashton's lunch table, and I have fun. Katie said that I would lose all my friends because of this, but she only ever had me, while I was friends with almost everyone. So I've actually gotten more friends by sitting with Ashton and the only friend I've lost is Katie. Gretel hangs out with Katie, but I see the awkwardness between them, because Gretel was always more of my friend, and is only hanging out with Katie because Katie clings to her because she's her only friend now. Katie just seems to whisper to Gretel and then laugh after I saw something, and Gretel has told me they are insults, but she never laughs with Katie. I just want to forget I was ever friends with her. So here are my questions.

Was I right in telling Ashton about Katie asking for updates? Was Katie wrong in asking for updates on their relationship? Am I snobby for just not even looking at her? Was Katie right to drag Gretel and Theresa into it? Is Katie being immature? How do I just forget the whole friendship ever happened? Should I confront her? If so what do I say? Thanks in advance.

 

[On The Edge Of Sanity]

You're both immature. Middle school, I'm guessing? It makes me really sick to read things like this because I can't stand girl drama. It ruins lives, honestly. But here I go...

You were looking to make drama when you told Ashton about Katie looking for updates. You never EVER do something like that. You need to learn to be faithful to all your friends. You are the only reason any of this started, sadly. By relaying information Katie trusted to you to Ashton you just knocked over a domino.

Katie shouldn't have been so open about her liking Kevin. It was wrong of her to ask for updates because that would have caused you to betray Ashton (While you telling Ashton caused you to betray Katie). She shouldn't have shared all that with Theresa and Gretel but face it, you can't stop that. You know darn well that when you tell your side of the story you make yourself seem like the innocent victim. All girls do it! It's a defence mechanism. It keeps us going.

You're both at fault and you both should apologize. That's all there is to it. Insecurities cause people to cling and you're destroying a lot of her mind for the future with that. Great.

But yeah.

 

[GirlPower18]

I think you were right in telling Ashton; she needed to know. Katie was SO wrong in asking for updates. She knows you're friends with her and she's basically asking you to betray your friend. And Katie wasn't right in dragging your other friends in. She just wants more drama and more attention. She's being really immature. Forget the whole friendship by keeping busy! Make plans with Ashton and you're other new friends! Have sleepovers go to the mall! If the insults keep coming, confront her. Say that you noticed that she's insulting you and that she's being immature. But don't insult her. And if it goes too far, tell an adult that she's insulting you.

 

[Sarah Cairns]

I just want to say good for you for telling Ashton about it . I suppose asking or updates is a bit like stalking in away . You sound like you were never that happy with Katie and like she was holding you back a bit. You have tried to smooth things over with katie and you have tried the best you can . The next time you pass her you could maybe nod or say hi or something so she knows that you don't hold any grudges. If she ignores you then she is the one being a bit snobby ! If you don't want to be friends with her that's fine but don't be nasty to her , just be civil towards her . Katie is being immature!But i wouldn't tell her that, i told a friend that she was being stupid and immature because she accused me of something stupid and we fell out big time!

I hope I helped and everything gets sorted out soon . Just enjoy yourself with your friends and ignore her insults.