I have been good friends with the friend in question for about 5 years now and she is very unhappy at her job. She is well paid for what she does and she does her job well, but she is underpaid for her position (as compared to others within her company and competitors). She has been looking for a job for several months now but hasn't found anything. Lately however I find it really difficult to deal with her constant complaining. Here are a few examples:
1. At least once a week she cries at work and then comes to me to complain about it.
2. Usually 1-2 times per week she points out that she is having a terrible day and then gives an extended list of reasons why.
3. Saturday is generally the only day that I am spared from listening to her complain.
Here are my issues with the problem.
1. There is nothing I can do about it or to fix it and her complaints would be better directed at someone within her company that can address her concerns.
2. She cries wolf and is incredibly sensitive.....you would think that at her office is constant yelling and screaming
3. I am concerned that she has already harmed her career by crying so regularly and has been labeled as one who cannot handle difficult situations.
4. I feel like she is paid well despite her below market rate and this includes being paid to deal with some of the things she regularly comes across.
5. I feel like she has reached her professional peak, meaning that given how she can't seem to handle her current job I can't see her dealing well with a higher level position that she really wants.
I'm not being insensitive and I want to be supportive of her but at this point complaining seems to be the norm and a day without a complaint is pretty rare. I understand that things happen and warrant complaints, but some things come with the job, and she doesn't need to run to me every single time something happens.
Any feedback is appreciated!
1. At least once a week she cries at work and then comes to me to complain about it.
2. Usually 1-2 times per week she points out that she is having a terrible day and then gives an extended list of reasons why.
3. Saturday is generally the only day that I am spared from listening to her complain.
Here are my issues with the problem.
1. There is nothing I can do about it or to fix it and her complaints would be better directed at someone within her company that can address her concerns.
2. She cries wolf and is incredibly sensitive.....you would think that at her office is constant yelling and screaming
3. I am concerned that she has already harmed her career by crying so regularly and has been labeled as one who cannot handle difficult situations.
4. I feel like she is paid well despite her below market rate and this includes being paid to deal with some of the things she regularly comes across.
5. I feel like she has reached her professional peak, meaning that given how she can't seem to handle her current job I can't see her dealing well with a higher level position that she really wants.
I'm not being insensitive and I want to be supportive of her but at this point complaining seems to be the norm and a day without a complaint is pretty rare. I understand that things happen and warrant complaints, but some things come with the job, and she doesn't need to run to me every single time something happens.
Any feedback is appreciated!