pilgrim1310
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before we become friends again? Hi. For the past year one of my really good friends and I have been crushing on each other. A couple of weeks ago she started dating another friend in our circle. This really blew me out of the water, though I have known my friend liked her too. First I was upset, genuinely heartbroken, but now I am annoyed. Since then, I have been insulted by her interactions with me- it's as if we were always just chums. She finally confronted my peeved behaviour and so I confessed my feelings and she pleaded ignorance. It's not that I still think of her romantically, but she won't acknowledge how close we were, the gestures, the exchanges, the affection. Everybody else would comment on it, so why won't she at least admit she was leading me on? I think it's the only way we can be friends again. And I miss her as a friend. Here is my dilemma: be fair to myself and what went on and don't resume the friendship until she apologies or admits it / or / just accept the friendship (she's not perfect, and maybe my true knowledge of events will lead to a false sense of superiority). I have to say I'm leaning towards the former, it's just difficult since she's one of my best friends and I might be losing other friends too. I want to respect my self, but would I be the better person to forgive her? Realistically, I think we can still have a good friendship despite her lousy actions of late. Please, your thoughts and advice my internet friends. I'd really like to hear from you.