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I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years, and we have been living together the whole time. I've never had an issues like this before and never suspected anything like this.
Yesterday I was nosing through his phone and found a text message in his outbox to a name I don't know (just two letters, turned out to be just the first two letters of her name) anyway the text said:
"send me some naked photos so I can imagine what to do to you" I asked him to explain and he made up some bullshit about never having seen the text and then blaming someone at work. I knew he was lying and when I stormed off he didn't follow after me so he was obviously trying to think of a way to get out of it. He came into the bedroom twice with bullshit stories but gave up because he knew that I knew he was lying.
Anyway, he eventually came clean (well he's admitted most of it I'm sure, although I'm sure he left out some details like how long it's been going on) and said that the girl started texting him dirty messages and he was just doing it to play along and that it didn't mean anything, he said he was just seeing how far she would take it.
I know he's not cheating in the physical sense...our lifestyle and living situation make it's impossible and I know who this girl is and she lives in another city.
I'm so mad at him and it makes me feel sick just thinking about it. I don't want to break up over this but I don't know if I'm ever going to be able to trust him again or forget what's happened.
I'm just looking for some advice or ideas about how you would deal with this, or maybe it's happened to you? I have no friends to talk to about this so I'm kind of stumped at how to talk this over!
(He's 36 years old)
Thanks
Yesterday I was nosing through his phone and found a text message in his outbox to a name I don't know (just two letters, turned out to be just the first two letters of her name) anyway the text said:
"send me some naked photos so I can imagine what to do to you" I asked him to explain and he made up some bullshit about never having seen the text and then blaming someone at work. I knew he was lying and when I stormed off he didn't follow after me so he was obviously trying to think of a way to get out of it. He came into the bedroom twice with bullshit stories but gave up because he knew that I knew he was lying.
Anyway, he eventually came clean (well he's admitted most of it I'm sure, although I'm sure he left out some details like how long it's been going on) and said that the girl started texting him dirty messages and he was just doing it to play along and that it didn't mean anything, he said he was just seeing how far she would take it.
I know he's not cheating in the physical sense...our lifestyle and living situation make it's impossible and I know who this girl is and she lives in another city.
I'm so mad at him and it makes me feel sick just thinking about it. I don't want to break up over this but I don't know if I'm ever going to be able to trust him again or forget what's happened.
I'm just looking for some advice or ideas about how you would deal with this, or maybe it's happened to you? I have no friends to talk to about this so I'm kind of stumped at how to talk this over!
(He's 36 years old)
Thanks