out for their sexuality? I'm a gay guy who seems to be the only gay guy in the world that thinks don't ask, don't tell should stay the way it is. I was debating this with a friend recently and he brought up the fact of gays being kicked out of the military for being gay. Sure, I don't agree with kicking someone out for being gay, but I do agree with the fact of not making sexuality a big issue. I'm not even in the military but basically live my life by the DADT concept. If someone asks if I'm gay I tell them, if they don't ask then I let them assume whatever they want, and since I'm not exactly the flamboyantly fabulous type, most people just assume I'm straight. I don't think sexuality is something that represents who a person is (regarding skills, morals, etc.) so I don't think it's an important thing to tell others. But going back to the part of gays being kicked out for being gay, I obviously don't agree with that seeing as I had a friend who was gay and he served his time and did great just like anyone else. My cousin was in the army and said during his 4 years of service he met 2 lesbians and 1 gay that most everyone knew were homosexual, but none of the 3 were ever kicked out of the military for their sexuality.
So my question is, for those who have prior military experience, how often are gays and lesbians actually kicked out of the military when their sexuality is revealed? I'm sure it happens, but I live extremely close to an army base and have many friends and family in the army but still never hear of people getting kicked out for being gay. Is the fact of someone's sexuality mostly an ignored subject? or are my friends and family just sugarcoating it because they know I'm gay and in actuality homosexuals get kicked out on a regular basis?
So my question is, for those who have prior military experience, how often are gays and lesbians actually kicked out of the military when their sexuality is revealed? I'm sure it happens, but I live extremely close to an army base and have many friends and family in the army but still never hear of people getting kicked out for being gay. Is the fact of someone's sexuality mostly an ignored subject? or are my friends and family just sugarcoating it because they know I'm gay and in actuality homosexuals get kicked out on a regular basis?