being gay or straight - why? I'm 20, never had a girlfriend, hooked up with girls, but i haven't really gotten with anyone in a long time - i've been on dates, but something happens and i lose interest. I'm a bit homophobic, i have watched heterosexual porn and i seem to be turned on more so on that kind of porn than say lesbians (i have never and i will not watch gay porn). I'm not the most fittest of people, and when i see a guy in a club i think they are good looking and i want to be that good looking so i can have more confidence (i'm really shy with girls), and i get a boost when i do weights and try to lose weight and i then have confidence with girls, but its just really inconsistent. i'm still a virgin, the mere idea of getting with a guy makes me sick, and i'm definately attracted to girls..yet i'm scared to do anything about it? i can't seem to find the confidence to pick up a girl at a club...and these last few weeks i've been thinking am i gay or straight? or just completely confused? It's an issue i've been thinking about since puberty and i know i don't ever want to be gay, and i really want to nail a girl all the time - but i'm just a bit scared?? please help someone..