should his family cover? Looking for a little advice and wisdom concerning an upcoming wedding in the family...the groom-to-be is 40 years old, never been married, his bride-to-be is in her 30s, also never been married. The bride's family has agreed to contribute $2,500 toward the wedding, the groom is paying between $1,000-$1,500 toward the reception and honeymoon, but he has not asked his mother (his dad isn't in the picture) to pay a dime toward anything because of her less-than-stellar financial situation, even though traditionally the groom's family makes some kind of financial contribution toward the ceremony or related events. The groom's mother had loaned him about $1,000 about 18 months ago as a down payment on a car and a couple other things when an emergency hit. He has paid about half of that off so far despite continuing financial challenges including major medical bills. So the groom-to-be got an e-mail from his mother a couple days ago saying that she would really appreciate payment of the balance as soon as possible because of expenses she has coming up (maybe medical-related...not sure) despite the fact that she knows that her son has less than eight months to save up the rest of what he needs for the wedding and honeymoon. He's thinking about pointing out to his mother that he hasn't asked her for a penny toward the wedding or other things that the groom's family "traditionally" contributes toward, but the big thing is that he's just really annoyed that she's asking him for the money right now realizing full well that he's trying to save up for the wedding. Oh yeah, and because she's the groom's mother, it really makes things problematic. Any suggestions on what the groom should say or do to help defuse this situation and/or not make it any worse? Would it help for him to point out to his monther that he's choosing to cover expenses that she would normally cover in such a situation?
Wow, lots of answers...
To fill in the details that I am aware of, the groom's mother is rather manipulative and a hypochondriac, so whether she really has medical issues right now or is just trying to pressure him to pay her back now, I'm not really in a position to know. I'm just trying to help offer advice and keep dude's life from getting any crazier.
Wow, lots of answers...
To fill in the details that I am aware of, the groom's mother is rather manipulative and a hypochondriac, so whether she really has medical issues right now or is just trying to pressure him to pay her back now, I'm not really in a position to know. I'm just trying to help offer advice and keep dude's life from getting any crazier.