first time sex - couldnt wait for it at first, but then got a bit scared? help! advice

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needed quick!!? ive been more or less ready for sex since i turned 17, everyone around me is losing their v's and it feels like its the right time for me too. last night, i was with a guy im now in a relationship with who i really really like and i know hes very much head over heels with me too. however when it was coming to it (he didnt know it was my first time and hes a LOT more experienced) his hands down my knickers ready to finger me and i think i got a bit nervous so that even though his finger wasnt in me, it...felt uncomfortable? and i didnt expect that. i was comfortable with my body but the thought of the pain sort of scared me and i chickened out?
i know it will hurt, but also because he didnt know it was my first time together it got me so scared and that surprised me as i thought i would be like 'ok yes lets go for it!'
any words of advice? :S
 
I say no. I lost mine at 17 and the guy who took it is nowhere to be found. He was way more experienced than me too. You would be another girl he can tell his friends he had sex with. Your body is your temple. Don't give yourself away to just anybody.

If you still want to, tell him the truth and talk to him about what his expectations will be from the relationship if you do have sex with him. Is he going to want sex every time you are together? One time thing? What type of protection will you use? Are you on birth control? What if you get pregnant or contract an STD? Will he be able to support a child? These are serious questions that need to be discussed before you have sex, not after. Sex is a life changing thing.

You can only be a virgin once. Once its gone, its gone. Make sure its with the right person.
 
I say no. I lost mine at 17 and the guy who took it is nowhere to be found. He was way more experienced than me too. You would be another girl he can tell his friends he had sex with. Your body is your temple. Don't give yourself away to just anybody.

If you still want to, tell him the truth and talk to him about what his expectations will be from the relationship if you do have sex with him. Is he going to want sex every time you are together? One time thing? What type of protection will you use? Are you on birth control? What if you get pregnant or contract an STD? Will he be able to support a child? These are serious questions that need to be discussed before you have sex, not after. Sex is a life changing thing.

You can only be a virgin once. Once its gone, its gone. Make sure its with the right person.
 
First of all, please don't rush into this because everyone else is having sex.
Secondly, if you & your boyfriend are really head over heels for each other, then talk to him & tell him that you are still a virgin. He's not going to think badly of that. What is a boyfriend worth if you can't talk to him about what's on your mind?
As for the pain, it's not that bad, just take things slowly & if he knows it's your first time, he should be gentle & caring.
 
u see those ppl around u that are losing their v's....? they are all gonna regret it for having done it with that person.
as much as u think u are mature and know better, u'll always think the next guy u go out with is the one and then in a few years u'll look back and u'll say he was just another jerk.
therefore u'll never be sure if u'r gonna regret it the rest of ur life or not czonce its done, u cant take it back. then u should wait till the one comes (since u can't be too sure a guy is the one, even in ur 30's, ur husband is the best candidate to be the ONLY ONE)
preserve ur self :)
peace
 
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