Financial issues with my boyfriend...am I over reacting?

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Abbey

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I have been with my boyfriend for about 7 months. Right now, financially, everything is split down the middle. We both pay half the bills and he gives me $50 bi-weekly to go grocery shopping, because we spend about $50 a week on groceries. However, last night he told me about his ex fiancee's arrangement with him. That they had a joint account he deposited $300 to every paycheck that she spent, and he basically supported her. However, he told me last night he likes our arrangement that we both use our own money. I told him I liked it too but eventually when we get married we'll have a joint account (like married couples do?). He said that won't happen because he wants to stay like this. I don't want his money, I've supported myself for years and I'm happy doing it. I just want to know that he would trust me. Am I over-reacting or am I right here? Is he being selfish?
 
financial issues are a HUGE contributor to divorce, breaking up. if he thinks that you guys cannot have a joint account when married, i'm afraid he's mistaken. then you'll have to think of splitting bills and stuff.

that doesn't mean you can't used your own money, and have other separate accounts, for other things like hobbies, etc.
i'd definitely get financial counseling before getting married, if/when you do. hope this helps!
 
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