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Tess P
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Me and one my closest friends got in our first big fight the other day. It was a combination of a couple of issues that just blew up. I was wondering if you guys can tell me if you feel that i was out of line, or if she was, and how i can make our friendship get back to normal
A day before we got into our fight, i became displeased with her because she hung out with my little brother without me. Normally i would not really care, at all. But he had returned from a 3 week trip abroad, and been home already for two weeks, but kept saying he already had plans when i asked him to chill with me. I told this friend (lets call her Jenna) that i was really disappointed in my brother's behavior, and hurt that he would not spend time with me. Then she made plans with him, and they invited me, almost as an afterthought. I didn't mention that i was displeased with her at the time, because i figured it would pass. She is a friend from college, she has met my brother on multiple occasions, but is in no way equally close with him as she is too me.
When my brother and Jenna hung out, i had not seen her either in about a week, and still have not seen her now.
The next day, i was feeling really anxious and upset about an unrelated issue. I told Jenna that i was feeling sad via text, and she reassured me that all would be well. Later that night, she asked what i was doing. I said i was bored at a bar with some friends from high school, and she invited me to come and hang out with her about 45 minutes away. I said it was too far for me to go, and she convinced me that i should come. When i asked her if her and the guy she is getting with would be able to drop me off on their way back to her house, she was like "i actually wanna get with him, so maybe u shouldn't come."
The two issues combined really upset me though, i felt that she had been completely insensitive to my feelings on two separate occasions, and blew up at her. I told her that it was out of line for her to allow guys and concerts to take priority over a friend who needs her, and that it was really uncool of her to hang out with my brother when she knew that i had not and was upset about it. I was drunk, so i was extra dramatic and told her that she shouldn't call me till she got her head on straight. The next day she texted me and said fighting with me really upset her, and she was shocked that i could be so mean. She said she felt that i had judged her behavior and that now she needs to censor herself around me. We eventually resolved things, but now i feel like our friendship has changed. What should i do?
A day before we got into our fight, i became displeased with her because she hung out with my little brother without me. Normally i would not really care, at all. But he had returned from a 3 week trip abroad, and been home already for two weeks, but kept saying he already had plans when i asked him to chill with me. I told this friend (lets call her Jenna) that i was really disappointed in my brother's behavior, and hurt that he would not spend time with me. Then she made plans with him, and they invited me, almost as an afterthought. I didn't mention that i was displeased with her at the time, because i figured it would pass. She is a friend from college, she has met my brother on multiple occasions, but is in no way equally close with him as she is too me.
When my brother and Jenna hung out, i had not seen her either in about a week, and still have not seen her now.
The next day, i was feeling really anxious and upset about an unrelated issue. I told Jenna that i was feeling sad via text, and she reassured me that all would be well. Later that night, she asked what i was doing. I said i was bored at a bar with some friends from high school, and she invited me to come and hang out with her about 45 minutes away. I said it was too far for me to go, and she convinced me that i should come. When i asked her if her and the guy she is getting with would be able to drop me off on their way back to her house, she was like "i actually wanna get with him, so maybe u shouldn't come."
The two issues combined really upset me though, i felt that she had been completely insensitive to my feelings on two separate occasions, and blew up at her. I told her that it was out of line for her to allow guys and concerts to take priority over a friend who needs her, and that it was really uncool of her to hang out with my brother when she knew that i had not and was upset about it. I was drunk, so i was extra dramatic and told her that she shouldn't call me till she got her head on straight. The next day she texted me and said fighting with me really upset her, and she was shocked that i could be so mean. She said she felt that i had judged her behavior and that now she needs to censor herself around me. We eventually resolved things, but now i feel like our friendship has changed. What should i do?