elderly neighbor complaining about toilet flushing?

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Elsie

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..past midnight. i know his wife has been sick, but is that justifiable for him to restrict our urination habits? my family and i have cut down our time in the bathroom past 11 pm (except on those two days a week when i go out late at night...and even then, i turn down friends' offers to hang out if it meant hanging out late at night two nights in a row). we shower before 11, though admittedly we do brush our teeth and pee after that time. and this week, i did run my arm under cold running water for 5 minutes because of mosquito bites.

we live in an apartment building and he only yells at us because we live in the apartment facing his and our bathrooms share a wall. but throughout the night, my family hears toilet flushing too from other neighbors (and presuming these neighbors stop going to the bathroom by 12 also...it's probably the others) and he never complains about them. i plan to take this issue with the housing manager, but i don't know what he can do about it. am i being a really mean person for drinking liquids after 11- meaning i'd be peeing around 12? my mom says the neighbor is crazy. but every time he mentions his sick wife, i feel bad. but then again, i tend to feel bad about stuff that doesn't deserve to be felt bad about. so i don't know at what point i should cross the line...? it would be great if someone who has lived in an apt complex can advise me on such an issue.
also , it's hard to talk with the neighbor because he's an immigrant and has limited English.
 
These noise complaints are soooooooo frequent in apartment living. Sometimes there are solutions like set hours for using the bathroom, closing the bathroom door so the sound doesn't carry into the next room in his apartment, etc. But sometimes, its just that people need to see each other as human beings, and not as the annoying neighbor with a crazy late-night lifestyle. It might be a good idea to take some food or something to comfort his wife over and sit down and talk for a while about how you know they're going through a tough time health wise, but its not possible to restrict bathroom use. Talk it through.

That could also be accomplished by using a mediation service - look for one in your area.
 
Sounds like too much stress going on next door. I like what someone said about suggesting they close their bathroom door so the noise doesn't travel.
I think it should be a law that joining walls must be sound proof.
 
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