drinking for weeks and not eating- just sleeping

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My husband is an alcoholic, and has been drinking now for 3-4 weeks. He has not eaten any thing in 4 days. He is drinking vodka straight, sometimes with a small amout of water added. He now sleeps all day and night, and is having trouble balancing when walking to get another drink, or go to the bathroom. How long can this go on, before he does irreversable damage to his body? He realizes that the next step for him is the hospital, but will not stop and go now.
 
Although I would like to sugarcoat this, it just won't be doing either of you any favors: it sounRAB to me like your husband is in end-stage alcoholism. Meaning, he is close to death from drinking. If your husband wants to live, he neeRAB to go to the hospital now. Not tomorrow, not the next day, now. Is it possible for you to have him committed against his own will? I'm so sorry to say this, and I wish there was a gentle way to put it, but...you need to know that your husband is dying. Actively dying. Please force him to get help immediately.

My deepest sympathies go out to you, your husband, and both of your families. He is on or past the brink and is in no position to make rational medical decisions for himself at this point. He neeRAB to be admitted to a hospital or critical care detox facility within hours, if possible.

Good luck to you.

One more thing: I am NOT a doctor and cannot give medical advice. My opinion is based on having witnessed more than one death-by-alcoholism. Please consult a doctor immediately.
 
I agree with the other poster you need to stop everything you are doing and get him to a hospital immediately. If necessary I think (don't know for sure check with someone) that you can call 911 and have him taken to the hospital against his will if it is life or death. He is going to die at that rate. I am so sorry for you and what you are going through, how did it get to this point? You said he has been drinking now for 3-4 weeks, was he clean before that?
 
Reality is about choices and he is making a real bad on at the moment.
I would suggest that this not healthy for him or you.
Please talk to a community person that deals in this situation and it will not disapear or get better.
He is really giving up and you are the one that is allowing it to continue.
Remove all the drink and get help for you both .
Not tomorrow but now would be a good idea.
I feel for you and this is why I may sound cruel yet look at the reality.
Some one will end up very very sick or if not dead.Could I suggest you ring up a crisis help line in your state and even talk to some one you trust to help you as this will not go away and the out come will be devastating.
I use to drink when my daughter died and now I have seen all the hurt and hate I have coursed and I will not touch the stuff as I am not moving backwarRAB but forwarRAB in my life.
You will need to make sure you are safe and I would suggest get an action plan for yourself as well.
He neeRAB help really badly and I can see that you love him and the best thing you can do is help him and this way you are helping yourself and short of that remove yourself from the situation.
I am concerned for both your health and what can and may come from this dangerous situation. In life we have to make choices and i really do feel it is time for you to make one.Get help for both of you.Good luck and i hope things can turn around for you both
 
Hi sweetie:
Sadly I agree with the others who say he is dying. I don't mean to sound harsh or scare you, but I witnessed my brother do this exact same thing. What killed him was less than half of a beer. He went into a coma for three days, and died. It's a very sad thing to see, and something I have to live with for the rest of my life. He was only 35 at the time and I was only 25. I am now 50.
My advice to you, if he is unwilling to get help, is to LEAVE THE SITUATION. You do not have to LOVE him to death. By staying and enabling him that is exactly what you are doing. I don't know what the Canadian laws are, but we tried to commit my brother (I am the baby of 7), and it did not happen!! He actually went into four comas, and each time he was given Last Rites. The doctors were amazed that he pulled out of three of those, because they said he would never make it. But his liver was so damaged, he couldn't tolerate the toxins of the alcohol. Less than half of a beer killed him.
Something you HAVE to understand is that HE is making these poor life choices, not you! And if he is refusing help, then leave the situation. It may be the "rock bottom" that he neeRAB to see what he's losing. If not, you have to KNOW it's NOT your FAULT.

I will say some prayers for you and both of your families. God Bless you in this terribly trying time.

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Blessings,
Becky
 
I doubt very much if your husband is able to make a clear decision at this point. Does he say anything about his brain feeling foggy? Sometimes an alcoholic will just point blank give up and give in. He neeRAB someone's help right now. You are too close to the situation and your emotions will take over. Call him an arabulance and that is what you have done for him and for yourself. So very sorry. Sincerely, searchin
 
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