Does sex get less painful the more you do it?

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Peach Roses

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I lost my virginity a few months back and it was horribly painful, and the times we tried to have sex again it was still painful, difficult to 'go deep' and i tensed up constantly. I tended to 'have sex' after that to please the guy as i felt so guilty, despite the pain and the constant failures to 'finish' as it was so painful (finish on his part, never mine).

Im worried ill never be able to enjoy sex. I'm out that relationship now but dread getting sexually active in the future as my first time was so painful and the guy turned out to be a real heart breaker.

Will sex gradually get less painful the more times i have it? I don't see how it could ever be enjoyable and feel like ill never get the chance to be with a guy willing to take it slow and relaxed, as most guys my age want it there and now with a girl whose not going to moan or be in pain.

Please try and answer my question, thank you.


(P.S Im 17).
 
It sounds like you need more foreplay. Sex should not hurt at all.
In fact, I think you'll enjoy it a lot more if you'd have an orgasm before having intercourse.

By the way, who says you always need to have intercourse each time you're having sex? With your next boyfriend, you might want to stick with petting, manual stimulation and oral sex for a while. Then there will probably eventually be a moment when you will actually *want* penis-in-vagina sex, and there's a good chance that it will not hurt and that you'll enjoy it.
It probably still won't make you have an orgasm, but that's normal. 75% of women cannot climax from intercourse alone.

If a guy really cares for you, he will not insist on having intercourse once he knows that you wouldn't enjoy it.
 
Sex will gradually become less painful yes, but you have more chances of it being less painful if you actually want to do it. When you're not excited about sex, you're not well lubricated and so it will be dry and will be sore. You should either find a way to get turned on completely or not do it. If a guy doesn't turn you on, don't do it, otherwise it will be sore and you'll both complain. Get him to do the legwork instead ;)
 
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