does it ever go away???

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Hi everyone i would appreciate any help!

Ive had anxiety years and ive been taking meRAB for about 4 months which do help but i still have times where it just comes and takes over.Im worried it will never go away.I have issues with the way i look and worry if my bf finRAB me attractive all the time.His porn use did help at all even though he has given his word that he wont look anymore after loaRAB of promises he wouldnt and did.I worry he will again and it crosses my mind quite abit.

People will robably think i sound silly i know.I am trying though really i am.Im doing a assertiveness course at the min which i must say is brilliant and helping i just dont understand why i feel so threatened about other women and how they look.If my bf says someone is pretty its like i automatically assume shes prettier than me.

What is wrong with me please help!

thanks x
 
Why don't you just break up with the bf. He doesn't seem to be very nice. Does he ever COMPLIMENT you? Does he reassure you of your beauty?

And sometimes when people know our weaknesses intentionally or unintentionally they use them against us and make us feel bad about whatever they know does it just to feel better about themselves.

It's a good move taking that course.

I think self-confidence plays a huge role in having anxiety or not. If I had any self-esteem I would be feeling much much better than I am with my anxiety.
 
Hello,

Sorry you feel like you do I to suffer from anxitey and my own confidence is poor, but you should not take your BF coments has he thinks other girls are better looking than you. I think he is just expressing that another girl is pretty.
The world is full of Beautiful people that does not mean YOU are not beautiful nor does it mean someone is more beautiful than you.

I for excample feel ugly I really do my anxitey tells me I am but if I use common sence I know I am not.
I am sure you are beatiful and I am sure your BF is proud to be by your side but remeraber it whats in your HEART and SOUL that counts because no matter how good looking someone is at the end of the day its whats inside that counts.

Being good looking is not all its craked up to be I have meet some awesome looking girls who had the personality of a carrot. Just be yourself and be proud of who you are.

The problem today is bueaty is rammed down our throughts where ever you look, turn on the tv, radio it is all about looking good the world is obbsesed with it...............and why MONEY pepole have forgot about the true values in life they care more about how they look than how they treat the frienRAB and family.

Try to love yourself for WHO you are and not how you look we are only here once ENJOY IT ErabRACE IT LOVE IT just be yourself.

Darryl
 
thanks for the replies...

hes not a bad person as such and he does compliment me although sometimes i feel like i have to ask him too.he likes other men seeing photos of me he senRAB them to them .in a way i like that other men find me attractive but also worry that he just likes that other men approve of me and not himself as such.Im a really nice person and will do anything for anybody including him even down to silly little everyday things.It just hurts that it took me so much hurt and pain to get him to stop looking at the porn as i told him it made me feel worthless.I cant change the fact it makes me feel like that it just does.

In a way i know im attractive i always get compliments but why do i obbsess on what he thinks of me and worry that if he watches porn that im not good enough.im really confused i feel like crying cos it never goes out of my head it hurts!
 
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