Does first time sex hurt?

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Okay i am getting married in a couple of days, and ive not yet had sex as i was saving myself. I hear very different stories from people. Some say it hurts some say its a breeze!
My fiance is pretty big down there and i am really tiny! I cant imagine that there will be no pain. I just really cant.
Realistically what am i to expect? and when will it begin to feel good?
 
No, it doesnt always hurt the first time. However, the chances of it feeling GOOD the first time are slim. Your partner isnt used to your body and you arent used to your body. If the two of you have done a lot of fooling around sexually, but avoided any penetration with his penis, then you guys might know what each other likes well enough that this first time wont be painfiul.

In general, take it slow. Dont be afraid to tell him to slow down, or to wait. If your body cannot create enough natural lubricant and he really is too big for you (thats pretty uncommon), then you can try a personal lubricant like KY to make things a little easier.

Dont tense up about it. Just let yourself relax. When you tense up, it will tighten the muscles down there and it will make it even harder for him to get it in if he really is that much bigger than you.

In the end, it really is a very natural, very enjoyable thing. Congratulations on your wedding! And congratulations of staying a virgin untill the wedding!
 
well it doesnt have to hurt if he knows how to do it with lots of fore play bringing you to your maxium wetness and and being gentle and working it in slowly easyly but if if still hurts it will feel good by the 2nd or 3rd time for sure
 
Every woman is different, if your hymen is already broken it may not hurt as much. If you have had things inserted in you such as tampons,fingers..etc you might be more use to something there.
My first time didn't hurt as much, and i wasn't use to things being "in" me. It's important that you just relax and have fun, don't tense up your muscles because it could make it worse. It doesn't hurt that bad, if anything it hurts for a couple seconds, not intensely or anything.. trust me im 18 and a baby when it comes to pain! lol but after a few seconds you get use to it and it feels much better :)
to answer your "what am i to expect" question, if you're hymen is not broken, you may bleed a little bit. My first time i did not bleed, but the second time afterwords i did a little bit, not bad though. I thought the same thing when i knew i was ready, i was so nervous because i thought i was so tiny and he was so big, but no worries :) Congrats on getting married too btw :) good luck!
 
The first time, it'll hurt.
But if you get it done and over with, the second time you do will be a breeze!!

I give you credit for waiting. I wish I would've had the brains to do that. =\
 
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