Do you think my boyfriend will get mad at this?

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i cant get ahold of him by phone so i was gunnaemail this to him, "Ugh Alright;Im not tryin ta sound bitchy or start shit with us or anything but some things gotta be said.1. Im supossoed to be your "girlfriend", being "busy" isnt an option, its an excuse, and im tired of it.2. We've talked for like 2 minutes since last thursdaywhat the hell?!3. how hard is it to pick up the phone dial a number and say hey ya kno wats up how r u, a simple phone call would take 10 -15 minutes now is that hard? i didnt think so.4. im tired of being so goddamn confused about you. You got me to trust you that night, and im still trying to, but i mean what the fuck am i supossed to think when we never talk and i know your history?5. im tired of sitting here calling you and not answering or doing something in the background or you not calling back. TIRED OF IT.you kept telling me not to leave you again & obv i havn't but your not doing your part in this. if u say your oging to do something do it. just do it.im not playing your game ricky, im not going to be led on by you, either im your girlfriend or im not. and if i am im your only and i want some god damn attention from you.im really upset and u just dont see that.IM NOT TRYING TO ACCUSE YOU OF ANYTHING OR GET YOU PISSED;i just need you to listen me and hear me on this.why wont u just tell me wats up?"i dont want him to get mad - anything i should fix? or rearrange?
 
It sounds like you need to dump him. You are not happy and he is not making any effort in the relationship, if you can even call it that.
 
The worst way to communicate is single-channel, meaning only one person expresses an opinion and the other can't respond or react. That's what you're doing when you send this type of email. He will sit there and read through it (presumably), but while he's reading he can't interact with you, agree/disagree, etc. It's better to sit face to face and have a two-way exchange, even if you must wait until the next time you see him.
 
A suggestion to save time and energy and emotional stress: DO NOTHING. If you have to prod him to see if he's still breathing, he's not a boyfriend at all. Do you really need a project????? Thought not. Left to him, this thing will die of its own inertia, and then you can blame him for being a jerk. Hope you learned something from that "one night," girl. Prod him into replying and you'll have to keep doing it, over and over. Give up now and spend the energy on finding a REAL person.
 
He might get defensive with that, to be honest.Have you ever heard of the "I feel" approach? Because "You" can be taken as a direct attack on a person.Here's a revision of your letter, not too much changed, but it likely won't cause a fight if you send it in a manner that doesn't read like your just saying "Your a jerk"---------------------------------------"Alright;Im not tryin ta sound bitchy or start **** with us or anything but some things gotta be said.1. Im supossoed to be your "girlfriend", being "busy" all the time makes me feel neglected2. We've talked for like 2 minutes since last thursdaywhat the hell?!3. Is it hard is it to pick up the phone dial a number and say hey ya kno wats up how r u? A simple phone call would take 10 -15 minutes. 4. im tired of being so goddamn confused about you. You got me to trust you that night, and im still trying to, but i mean what the **** am i supossed to think when we never talk and i know your history?5. im tired of sitting here calling and your not answering or doing something in the background or not calling back. TIRED OF IT.you kept telling me not to leave you again & obv i havn't but a relationship takes two people. if u say your oging to do something do it. just do it. It drives me crazy that you don't.im not playing your game ricky, im not going to be led on, either im your girlfriend or im not. and if i am im your only and i want some god damn attention from you.im really upset and u just dont see that.(I took out the caps-locked bit here, because from what this note has in it, you don't need to apologize for anything that I know of.)i need you to talk to me on this, I don't want to be left in the dark"-----------------------------------------------
 
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